Sometimes I wonder, Phlo, if it's not to truly forgive somebody for something they've done that changed your life, in a bad way, maybe even forever. The thing about it is, there's not a good reason to not forgive them. Unforgiveness is like a cancer eating you alive inside out, and that person who hurt you? #1. They either don't know that they're on your mind that much; #2. Do you honestly think they'd still care if they hurt you, and #3. Who's really the only one now suffering? The one who can't do the forgiving. I think it's one of the hardest things in life to do, but once you learn how to do it, one of the easiest because your life becomes so much better because there's no more cancer growing inside or that can begin to grow.
Somebody beating me in an argument until I start to say crazy things and confuse the hell out of them making them think WHAT THE HELL and then it is switched around and I'm the one who comes out as the ultimate mind blown WINNER!!!! xD