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I'm a 16 year old male and I live with my mother and brother. My parents are recently divorced and my dad has asked me to move in. Both my bro and mom smoke(cigarettes) and I smell like it due to them. whenever I bring up the topic of me moving in with my dad my mom gets pissed and says "if you wanna move in with a drunk...". Their smoking has effected my health since I was a kid when my parents were together and in the same house and they both smoked many years ago. My dad is kinda an alcoholic (he doesn't drink as much as he used to but I'm not sure if he'll stop drinking I move in). Whenever I ask my mom to stop smoking she says she stays in one room (which she doesn't) and my brother is just an ass. I'm truly thinking about running away and living somewhere else. A LOT OF OTHER THINGS CONTRIBUTE TO THIS. Like me doing poorly in school, parents being divorced, and things aren't really going my way and other things . I don't know what to do. HELP!!!

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u need to get help, try talking to another family member or an adult who u trust, do not run away, just plz don't, ur story brakes my heart, get help from a trusted adult is all i cn tell u, think twice before u make any choices kid, if u really have to choose between the 2, choose ur dad, because he might be drunk but he will not affect ur health

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Live w your pops.

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If i was u id move cause hell dont die from somethin u dont do that would suck

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I wouldn't run away. Talk to your counselor. Everyone who I know whose parents are divorced switch between they're mom and dad (1 week mom, 1 week dad or weekdays mom, weekends dad…)

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Dude It's up to you!

Honestly I would rather stick with the dad!

Smoking will kill you faster than being around a drunk!!!

Also your brother seems to be annoying. Moving in with your father is a much better idea than running away.
I bet alot of people have thought of running away but if you do you need to understand that you will more likely die than not die!!!!!!!!!!


Anyway I would advise sticking with one of your parents and getting more help :P

Comment if you need anything more!

-7'S

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If you don't already i'de recommend finding a job to minimize time spent at home and also provide support for your future. From what you've said both situations are a bit hard. Personally i'de keep up in some sort of hobby like fishing and spend more time with your father. You mentioned his alcohol intake has decreased so there is obvious hope there. Also second hand smoking will harm you as other people consuming alcohol should not. Either way i'de recommend a school consoler for extra support. Consider other options such as grand-parents etc. Make sure to follow your heart and no matter what do not fully disconnect from family. Best regards -jmg

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The thing is though I can't get a job I'm falling behind A LOT in school
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Hm, Maybe call "Teen help phone" and see what they have to say or try having a long reasonable/convincing conversation with your parents and tell them how this is affecting you. Maybe then they might smoke outside of the house. Running away is tempting but it's really not a good Idea due to the fact that your parents could call the police and write a report towards a "Missing child" and could get you in a lot of crap. I feel really bad for you and I hope this helps! :)

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Okay you should go move in with your dad because of them smoking, and you should stand up to your mom and say "you know what i can move in with my dad if i want to" ( only if you want to) and if you move in with your dad then you should start getting your grades up in school little by little.

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Tell your dad that you will move in if he. Will stop drinking

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