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Mush12381: 3 months ago via iPhone

What is a good method for getting a toddler to sleep in their own bed?

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jugglergirl4: 3 months ago via iPhone

I have a sister that I read three books to every night, usually works

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Cjkenkel: 3 months ago

That's very sweet!

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Buttercup_: 3 months ago

I think my parents would stay in my room until I fell asleep and that seemed to work

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princessbrys76: 3 months ago via Android

first of, don't force the toddle to go in the room, by doing that you will tramatize the child and then it will be worse... well, if the child is still in the napping stage, I would put him/her napping in their own bed..probably introduce the child to the room lil by lil.. talk about a " big kid's room" ,what would she/he like their own "big kid room" to be...see how they react to that .normally toddles want a " big kid" room so he/she might go for it :)- good luck!

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

it will not "traumatize" the child making them do something.. geez you're exaggerating when you use that word.. some children will do fine and adapt well or quickly to sleeping on their own and at worst some children will give you crap about it (either by sneaking out like my child did, or by crying and such cause they're scared to be on their own). When you use the word "traumatize", you make it sound like there'll be permanent damage and in need of counceling... and in no way will it cause permanent damage.. or damage of any kind. Just takes a few nights or so (depending on the child) until you see any adaptation to a new situation.

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

Children always look to the adults in their lives for how to react to situations or new things. So, when you make a big deal out of something (that isn't necessarily a "big deal"), then your child will learn to react (or sometimes even overreact) to those same things. As their parent you need to be their rock, they look to you for what's real and how to react and handle things (and even adapt)..

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

So for example one night my daughter's imagination was going wild and she thought she saw a monster, waking us up at 1 in the morning.. it's best to tell her there is no monster and to go back to sleep and to not wake us up unless it's a true emergency.. than to say, "well, where did you see the monster?" "what did it look like?".. and the such.. will only reinforce ger belief in monsters and a continuance of her waking us up every night..

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

my point is that it's all about how react to things.. if you make it seem like it's not a big deal to sleep on your own, your child is more likely to adapt quicker and more effortlessly, than say if you try to ease him in... drawing it out more. Again, there will be a few nights needed for adjustment, but be consistent.

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princessbrys76: 3 months ago via Android

duhhhhh!!! all of that writting for what?!!! - simple can't force a child to go into a room and keep him/ her in there.. yes they can get traumatized ,can hate going back in that particular room ,can look at it as some kind of punishment cus the parent made him/ her stay in there .. you cak NOT do that to a child!! obligate the child to do a transition like that ,like u sugested!! therefore ny original answerbis correct !!

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

whatever.. I'm actually going off personal experience from my father and what he did with my older brothers and I AND... I'm a parent of a young kid now.. which it hasn't traumatized her, silly woman. I've even had an RN that specializes in young children that visits all new parents on military bases and gives advice. And one things I remember her saying was that don't adapt the environment to your child, your child will adapt to the environment they grow up in. But, whatever believe what you want..

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

you're real mature sounding, saying "duhhhhh!!!"

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TiffanyWitz: 3 months ago

Children are smart, they will understand that they should sleep because their parents sleep.. everyone sleeps.. they will not think it's a punishment. Now.. they COULD think it's a punishment if you send them there during the day as a punishment, like when parents say "go to your room!"..

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40dawg: 3 months ago via iPhone

There could be something in the room he or she currently sleeps in now that they like to look at or keeps them calm. Try moving whatever it is (you may have to experiment with different things) into the kid's bed. Or you could try explaining to him or her about being a "big boy or girl." Or try to get him or her excited to go to his bed. Have a race to see who can get there the fastest, or bribe him with a stuffed animal. And once you do get him into his own bed, encourage him to keep sleeping in there.

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BenTroll: 3 months ago

You carry him to the bed, put him in the bed and close the door :3

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RachaelBeukes: 3 months ago

Anytime they fall asleep, put them in their bed, when it is bedtime, tuck them into their very own awesome big kid bed. Do it as early as you can. Letting them have their door open and such will usually help make them more comfortable at first.
But don't act like it's some new crazy thing they have to do. Act like it's normal and calm and they'll pick up on your vibe. Kids can smell weakness and fear and will use it to attempt to guilt you into letting them sleep elsewhere.

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mrs.lady216: 3 months ago via iPhone

My niece is 3 and she sleeps in her own room. She loves princess stuff, so we decorated her room with a princess theme, told her that all princesses has their own room and sleeps in their own bed, it worked, lol we leave a night light on and door open.

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Goodconscience: 3 months ago | Last edited at 6:17AM on 2/13/2013

By making sure you NEVER start the toddler sleeping in your bed in the first place. Once in a while maybe, if your little one genuinely feels scared, but try to sneak them back to their bed whilst not waking them up. It can be a challenge sometimes. However, it can be done with a little patience and warmth. Don't be mean about it. You want your children to grow up feeling secure, without being too clingy. In the long run, you will both rest better.

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kbrece1: 3 months ago

maybe a cool night light of the choose an maybe a stuffed friend

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penguinlover19: 3 months ago

promise them icecream the next morning,

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smitty280: 3 months ago

Put glow in the dark star stickers all over the ceiling. The light has to be off to see them. Also, giving the child a little LED flashlight and a book could be fun. Read it in a bed tent.

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JugheadJones: 3 months ago

GIvve them a glass of warm milk?

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chimihothead: 3 months ago

make them watch every movie of twilight.

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amytommy: 3 months ago

get him a pet so he can't get lonely.put the pet in his room

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CorrineCollier: 3 months ago

i would read them a childrens book and stay with him until he falls asleep in his room. keep it up and then it might help.

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djfirepup: 3 months ago

When i was that young i remember having just a beta fish i guess i like to watch and it got me to sleep in my own bed. But then i remember being sad when it died

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mpoland: 3 months ago | Last edited at 3:34PM on 2/13/2013

Go to the grocery store and buy some glow in the dark crayons.
Only glow in the dark crayons will work for this.
Go in to there room and depending on how high the ceiling is use a ladder
if you have to, believe me it will be worth it. Put dime size dots all over the ceiling.
Or you can even draw stars. You may wish to turn the lights on at least 15 to 20
minutes before bed time to charge up the ceiling.
As they lay on there back in the bed looking up at the ceiling watching the stars, the stars
lose there charge and start to dim out. They will close there eye's along with the dimming of the stars and fall asleep.
It might sound crazy, but it actually works.

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redy101: 3 months ago

say if you sleep in your bed the whole night the sleeping fairy will give you a dollar but in the middle of the night you put the dollar under her pillow.

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magicmike98: 3 months ago

chloraform! lol jk

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i_have_no_idea: 3 months ago

sleep with them one night, not the next, and rotate.

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purplelabradoodles: 3 months ago

nightlight will help ease the fear of the dark.

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tonyg: 3 months ago

Our little guy has been sleeping in his own bed (in his own room) since he was about 20 months old. We put a few sheets down and placed his mattress directly on them (i.e., no box spring or frame) so that he could climb in and out by himself and wouldn't have far to fall if he rolled out. Then, we had him take his daytime naps there for a week; he did nights in his crib. Once he was good with his naps, we started on overnights, adding a night light. The daytime naps were really the key; dark enough to sleep but light enough to look around and get familiar with his new setting. Ah, we also painted/decorated his room Curious George (who he still loves but was super stoked on at the time). Good luck!

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Mush12381: 3 months ago via iPhone

Thanks! We think its a separation anxiety thing for her. We just recently moved our bed downstairs. We have always just been outside of her door. I will try your method :)

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