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If you are not officially dating someone, and you were asked out for Valentine's day by another guy, would it be rude to be their Valentine?

Me and this guy have hung out a few times, kissed, etc, but he and I are not in a relationship. He likes me, and I like him, but I just ended a serious relationship a few weeks ago. I would like to date him, but he thinks I'm still hung up on my ex.

Another guy asked me out on a date for Valentine's Day... would it be rude to go? Should I tell the other dude about this?

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You can go and you don't have to tell him anything.....you guys aren't together so you don't owe him anymore than the other guy.

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Cool, thank you
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I don't believe it is rude from the way you explained it. But then again, I know little to nothing of this holiday called "Valentines".

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Ok thanks :D
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Just buy her chocolate! Tell her you love her. Buy her chocolate! Give her a kiss. Oh, did I mention... Buy her chocolate! =)
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^L0L Happy :)
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I don't get it...
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That's pretty much all there is to the holiday! It's just a day to say, "I love you!" Women love chocolate, flowers, anything romantic. Do whatever makes you happy, and celebrate being in love! <3
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but what if ur not in love....
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More candy for you!
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It depends on how serious you are towards the other guy.

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I see, thanks :)
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No pro6lem sweetie.
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Suzie17

You are free to see anyone you want. Have fun!!

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Kk :D
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Phlorence_602

I agree with Gator_12
You should go...And don't forget to follow your heart, not your mind (in this case)

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Well thanks :)
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Follow your tummy! Pick the one who gives the best chocolate!
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Haha!
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I agree! You have no commitment to either. Have fun! You deserve to enjoy being single and dating. It's a date, not an engagement. WOOOWHOOO! The Ninja is back!

Happy Valentine's Day!

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Haha thanks Happy :D
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Morning Happy !
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It depends on if the guy you don't know if your dating is taking your 'relationship' seriously. As in, if he thinks your actually dating or not. If he doesn't think your dating then it should be alright to go out with this other guy that asked you.

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Now that is hard to say .. only because there are not enough details to explain the relationship that is being developed with this certain someone. If this guy is special, and you are hoping for it to develop into something more serious, and he hasn't asked you yet .. then ask HIM out for Valentines day.. If he is not so special, and you are so inclined to turn your attentions elsewhere .. go for it.

and about 'telling' this guy about your whereabouts .. I would never suggest to lie. Honesty is always the best policy...especially if you want to keep his friendship. Be open and honest, and if he's not interested in you 'in that way' .. then THAT should also be vocalized.

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Makes sense, thanks :)
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Follow your heart. This could go either way. It could make the guy you're seeing realize that you are ready to date. Or, it could make him think you are not really interested in him. Consider how your relationship is at this point. How secure is it? Good luck!

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Yes. It's very rude. It'll probably ruin whatever you two have.

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smart cookie :p
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I am agree with Gator_12

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Hm... If I answer this question, what's in it for me?

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A teddy bear :)
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Um... No. Not even close
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My stars are dipped in chocolate today and tomorrow. Here!
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That wasn't the answer, by the way. That was me answering to your teddy bear.
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any other offers?
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1 imaginary high-5
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no that wouldn't work either
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Well if he likes you he should step up to the plate and ask you out , and if you want to go out with him tell him , if he says no , go with the other guy .

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Thanks :)
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cookies
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You're young ! Play the field and have fun ! No commitments till Mr Right comes along ! I wouldn't say a word to the other guy or anyone else ! It's YOUR life , not theirs . Go out and have some fun ! As long as you're single , make the most of it . Yeah , the other guy might be PO'd , but that's life . You snooze you lose ! Take your time and HE will come into your life and you will know that this is the guy for you ! Till then , date whoever you want and have fun !

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Thanks, that's great advice!
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Jackie-san : For you anytime !
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Well you are single, so it's really your decision, it might be taken kinda rudely by guy #1, sounds like he's focusing on you if he wants YOU to be his valentine. But it's really up to this first guy to step in and be a man if he has a problem with it

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No problemo Jackie'o
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im kinda in the same boat.
im with a guy ive liked for 5 years. and my ex boyfriend of 6 months is wanted to talk to me, and knowing him, its probably about wanting to get back with me. i love my ex alot, and i do my bf too.
i guess just do what you want, noone can stop you.

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Your smart... you know your rebounding from a fresh breakup..
Have fun! But allow yourself time to heal and you will be healthier for it :)

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Thanks blades :)
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Anything for you Ninja :)
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You hussy...toying with the hearts of two innocent young lads! =P

You're not even dating him so I don't see the issue although I feel for the first guy. It sounds like he doesn't want to be the "rebound guy" and is going to end up losing his shot with you.

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Lol so I should ask HIM out for Valentine's Day?
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You should ask me out for Valentine's Day! =P But seriously, yes. Yes, you should. I should make the disclaimer that I'm partial to strong women who know what they want and go for it. Something about that is just really awesome.

He might be too nice and sensitive for his own good too. If you've told him you're ready to see other people, he should take you for your word instead of trying to read your mind. Unless you constantly talk about your ex and/or you're stalking your ex. Then this guy has a point. =]
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You are awesome thanks so much. I think I should be a little stronger, yeah :D
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YummyKimchiPancakes

You're not in a real relationship..so it's really up to you. I do believe the other guy would have some hurt feelings though...so you should take that into consideration before you decide.

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Good thought, thank you :)
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Welcome :)
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no it would not be rude

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