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A friend of mine that I care deeply about just told me about her bf beating her. She said he has only beat her once and hit her a couple other times and she said she's fine with it and says she deserved everytime. i for one am strongly against this. Do you think it's okay. I just want opinions.

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I don't think it's okay for anyone of any gender to hit anyone else.

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so true
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Yes, it's a little ridiculous. Stating the obvious gets more stars on opinionated questions than stating something helpful on a real question.
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No

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Hell No!. Never is it okay too hit a girl!?!?!

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Um, NO! =/

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No its against the law...and should not be tolerated....tell someone now....they should be arrested for doing such!!!!!

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THE law !
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I see you haven't seen the same films I have. . .
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No it's not ok under any circumstance. The only reason why I'd think it be fair is if she's hitting him as we'll then she shouldn't complain but she should leave him period.

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if they hit first and mean to hurt you then yeah you have the right to hit back but thats its

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if we always hit back it would never end!!!! so no, not a bright idea! If someone hit you and you hit back... they are ganna HIT YOU BACK!!!
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anglewithanshotgun
well dont hit back its stupid to even hit someone if a girl hit me trying to hurt me i would hit back and they wouldn't hit back unless they are really stupid to think that they should a treat a guy like that i'm not just saying woman hit but men do to but if they hit back then i'm gone cuz that girl will lose the most sweetest and romantic guy in the world so if they hit me back then i'm gone
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I was saying that to you I wasn't saying I did it. And obviously this girl has a reason to hit you because you seem like a cocky jerk.
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How about no one hitting anyone :)
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This is boring
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GirlOfDestiny13

No Call the Cops!

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the cops won't do anything unless she presses charges and it looks like she is not going to because she has been brainwashed to think that is her fault.
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no not if shes not even gonna fight back now if she would fight him back then i could say its okay but if hes going to hurt her when shes defenseless then absolutly N.O

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Its not ok to hit a girl only give her the back hand nothing else

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no!

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If he's beating her no? If she hit him at all or they got into a fight, then yeah it's okay, as long as she got a few licks in. If she's brave enough to stand up to someone, then she's brave enough to be hit by someone. If she's not brave enough, then she needs to leave because it wouldn't be fair.

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I couldn't have said it better my self. star!
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It's NEVER ok to hit a woman. If your friend doesn't get out of the abusive relationship that she's in, she'll most likely be killed at some point.

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Although some women need to be hit, its never right for anyone to hit anybody. Try yelling or walking away. ...it'll keep you from having to post bond.

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That is 100% abuse right there. At no point does a GF deserve being hit by her boyfriend. Ever.

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Its not okay and you need to get her out of the mind process that she deserves it asap!!! Soon she will end up in the hospital...then what?!? Have her watch the movie 'enough' with J Lo. It will get her to realize it always beets worse.

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Yes.

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Huh / looks like we've got us a wife beater over here let's crush him.
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i do not think it is ok to hit anyone, male or female, especially when the two in question are in a relationship. where is the love, respect, compassion, caring and protection? in a relationship, are not all of those traits supposed to be shown to each other?
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outside of relationships, selfdefense in order to escape further harm, is understandable. however, most cases of aggressive behavior stem from ignorance and immaturity.

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heck no if people think it is ok then they have mental problems

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no, is absolutely not right for her to get abused like that. It seems that she has been brainwashed by her bf that if she gets hit is her fault. Unfortunately there is not much you can do, you can't call the cops because she won't press charges if you do, and it would only go worse for her once the bf finds out that she has been telling everyone. What I would do in your case, I would go to to the women's shelter and ask them if you could set up an interview between your friend and a woman from the shelter that has been physically abused. Hopefully she would see that what is happening to her is abused and she has to leave this guy before it gets to the point of not return, meaning death.

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NO, if she tells you hes been hitting on her again,you better do something about it,the next step is he might kill her,..... i'v had family experience.So a man should NEVER hit a woman,EVER.no matter what.

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any male who hits or beats a female is an abuser. he will only get worse until he does serious damage. a female who puts up with it and makes excuses for it is an enabler. she should run the other way as fast as she can before she is seriously hurt.

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Not under any circumstances that I can think of

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Yes.

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I will destroy you.
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Hell no,,,

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No, It's not okay for a man to beat or hit a woman. A man who beats or hits a woman is not real man at all.

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i sure the hell isnt! shiii i would kill a guy i he ever tried to hit me. just because im a girl doesnt mean im not gonna hit you back!!!!!!!!!

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It's never okay for a man to hit a girl and if he thinks its okay he's obviously delusional because he's crazy and unless she's trying to kill him IT'S ILLEGAL

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Is this a joke? Of course it's not okay.

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No it's not okay at all. It's rediculously stupid

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NEVER a man should never hit a woman.

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It's never ok for a man to hit a woman. A man that hits a woman is usually the insecure punks and nobody deserves to deal with that. Abuse is never ok in any circumstance.

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There's a difference in beating someone, and hitting. I hope you know that.

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Lots of girls take advantage of how guys "aren't allowed to hit a girl'. It really depends on the situation. I'm not pro for it though! :/

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I don't think it's okay for anyone to hit anyone else. What's wrong with people? Other animals don't hit each other like that. And yet we feel superior to them? Bull$#!%

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Absolutey Not , u could kill her if u do it one too many times!

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is that even a question? look up teh chris brown rihanna scandal

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XxElu_TalaxX

Hell no! God, if I ever got hit by a man, I would have to get rid of his balls; the painful way.

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It's only okay if it's in self defense. Any other reason is invalid.

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I think it is very wrong I also have a friend of mine whose husband beats her,chokes smack makes fun of in public calls names and her self confidants is so low she thinks she can't do any better and as much as I tell her to leave she never listens

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This is just like my friend. i wish she would listen to me when i tell her she deserves beter
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yes
she swings first
put her down firmly quickly

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Then what?
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Creep you never hurt a woman Never!
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I don't think there is anything particularly wrong in hitting a woman, though I don't recommend you do it the same way that you hit a man.

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Only a pathetic loser would hit a woman.

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That girl needs some help, what awful thing could she have done to deserve being hit? Maybe if she abused a child or something, but it would be better to press charges. There are better ways to resolve problems then resorting to hitting another human.

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It is completely wrong! No one deserves something like that. Only someone who is pathetic and is still immature would hit another girl!

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NOOOOOOOo!!!!!!!

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Hell no, no man EVER has the right to hit a girl no matter even if she deserves it. Treat women like they are a temple and take care of them dont hit them.

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Iam also one to hunt you down and beat u if i find out u hit a girl and seriously hurt her
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No Way Man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I have to agree with the majority. A man should never hit a woman ever.

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Definitely not. Share this article with her, http://download.jw.org/files/media_magazines/39/g_E_201304.pdf. The Bible states: “Jehovah himself examines the righteous one as well as the wicked one, and anyone loving violence His soul certainly hates.” (Psalm 11:5)

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Never OK.

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for sure no

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It's not ok. Never ok. Poor girl

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No absolutely not call the police

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It is NEVER okay for a man to put his hands on a woman....If he does it one time he will do it 100 times, and it's NEVER your fault. In my book a man who hits a woman is nothing but a COWARD!!!!!!. He has to hit you in order to make himself feel "BIG". Well let him feel big with somebody else, cause if you look up the word "LOVE" in the dictionary it states that love is attraction to another& warm concern....Not one time does it say to belittle the person u claim to love. Love is NOT suppose to hurt

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i personally have been hit bey my boyfriend but he was very drunk and i was nagging at him but it wasnt ok with my brother because he beat the hell out of him.

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no way its never ok to hit a girl i just finished reading a book ( the color purple ) and in the book it said some woman just cant be beat well im the type of girl to kill u if you ever tried

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nope

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no its not ok for any man to hit any female it is wrong he should be delt with severely

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no its not. trust me. domestic abuse can kill.

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It's not ok for people to hit each other :P Simple as that ^_^

However it's annoying how society likes to ignore female abuse of men and domestic abuse. Both are bad.

^_^ Just don't hit other people!

But hey if some girl is beating the crap outta me I'm not gonna feel all that guilty if I hit her once or twice ^_^

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any man who hits a woman is a coward,and should have his ass kicked by real men

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Your friend should ask herself, would Jehovah, a God of love, approve of a man hitting a woman just to exercise his authority? (1 John 4:8) Absolutely not! "In this way husbands ought to be loving their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself, for no man ever hated his own flesh; but he feeds and cherishes it." (Eph. 5:28,29) This is not the love that comes from God. Godly love causes one to do what is good and beneficial for the other person. “Love builds up.” (1 Cor. 8:1)
“Love is long-suffering and kind. Love is not jealous, it does not brag, does not get puffed up, does not behave indecently, does not look for its own interests, does not become provoked. It does not keep account of the injury. It does not rejoice over unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.”—1Co 13:4-7.

The proper position needs to be in place for their relationship to reap blessings, they must be married. (Gen. 2:24) She should ask herself then, do I want to spend the rest of my life with a man who does not respect me & love me enough not to inflict pain upon me?

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no its not right

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no not at all

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It is never right for anyone to put their hands on anyone else. The Bible says that husbands should love their wives "as their own bodies." (Ephesians 5:28) Assaulting one's mate would not show their love for them.

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Ummm..... NO!

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Nobody should be hitting anyone.

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It is not okay either way. And not to mention women are "weaker" than men, so now not only is he a jackass but a coward too. Hitting a woman like that. I dare you to hit me, see what happens. But seriously you need to help your friend get out of that relationship, and if she won't listen to you you must go to the authorities. She'll forgive you in the end, once she finally realizes you were just trying to help.

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Of course it is not ok! No one should get hit, especially by their partner. If they end up marrying the person, it will end bad if the person does not stop.

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it's not ok to hit anyone. Anger management anyone?

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its not nice to hit anyone so dont do it we all have feelings

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HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA Never on any terms should a man hit a women. If a man hits a women then they should leave them. instantly!!

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No!!!!!!!!!!!

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I encourage you to read this brief article taken from www.jw.org
It targets the issue you mentioned about your friend & perhaps may save her from worse situations that stem from what you mentioned. View the link below! Hope this helps.
Scroll to the top of the article!

http://wol.jw.org/en/wol/d/r1/lp-e/102004447?q=why+does+he+treat+me+so+badly&p=par

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It is never okay for a man to hit a woman. She needs to get out of that relationship, because it is obviously a toxic one. You need to talk to her, and convince her to get out of that relationship.

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no it is not ok for a guy to hit girl.

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in my opinion the man who's act a woman like that he is fool. and don't know what's the manhood mean.
the manhood is how to contain women ... not vice versa

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we should respect girls . woman are respectful you shouldnot!
NOT AT ALLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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no its illegal right?

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no

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Never hit a lady

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I don't agree with this statement, between the men and women should be equal.

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Absolutely not. It's also not okay for a girl to hit a man.

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The same question with "Is it okay if I hit your Mother?"

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hell no he should get his ass kicked

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NO!!! She or you tell someone immediately!!!! It can get worse!!

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It is never ok for a man to hit any girl

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NO. It should NEVER happen to either gender.

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You're right. I wanted to point out I said "Girl" in relation to an abused person in my post because that's the case here and because of length restriction. However, no one should ever be hit in any relationship. Not a romantic one for any genders, no in a parent child relationship, not in a friendship... not for any reason is it okay for someone to abuse anyone. Self defense -is- okay. If someone is attacking you, you can fight back and RUN and never go back. Some people don't realize that men can be abused as well. They can and it's just as wrong.
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H3ll no....ooh If some idiot ever hit me....

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No no NO!!! Hitting is NEVER okay. Hitting is NOT love, real love doesn't hurt. In NO relationship is it okay for anyone to hit anyone. Unfortunately this is a common response. The one being abused, will often protect their abuser with "I deserved it". No one ever deserves abuse. The abuser will apologize & the girl falls for the lie. It will keep happening until he's stopped or she dies. Girls end up in the hospital a lot, end up with life long injuries, trauma. Not to mention the emotional scars. This girl needs professional Psychiatric help. A good sign., she reached out to you. May mean she wants help, doesn't know how to get it. A girl will suffer in silence until the abuser kills them often. Take her to the battered women's shelter, they can help her get out of this situation. But she needs to be strong. She should get a restraining order, go to the hospital, get injuries documented, go to cops & cut off all contact with him. None of this will be easy for her, keep encouraging her. If she doesn't get out you could lose her (she could lose her life). If she's under 18 tell her parents and make sure they understand this is real. Get her help! But don't let him find out.

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