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So im a 11th grader and this girl likes me. I don't like her back but when I told her I didn't like her she got really mad and depressed.

how do get her to not be sad or mad at me i dont date at school there is no point! but sense i wont date her she has cut herself and even worse messed up things!! please help! i even tried to get her to not like me I do a bunch of bad things I told her all of them and she still wants me!!! I dont understamd i feel like being a really frequent smoker and partier would stop her! Help!

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Don't tell her smoking and partying like an animal is ok cause that's going to turn her into a real bad person and her future wow don't even mention it.....you can't do anything about it other than just being her friend and explaining the way you feel

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I wasnt telling her to party and smoke I was hoping my bad habits would push her away
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Oh we'll just talk to her as a good friend and maybe she just needs some space away from you to process everything...tell the school psychologist to help her out....tell her to ask these people here at ask to give her some advice I'd definetly try to help
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well see I tried just being her friend said no I need you... she plans on getting me stuff on valentines day.. she expects something back.. im not getting her anything
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Ok well just stay away from her sometimes not seeing the person helps and like I said talk to the school psychologist cause it may turn into an obsession and it can turn out bad...watch the movie obsession the one where beyonce comes out
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well I cant go to the phsycologist because well he is the person who gets me alchohal and stuff from all this I Know he is untrustable and I know he wont do it. amd for the push her away type thing I tried she comes after me I ignore her completely and she still comes back
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Then a counselor and how is it that such a person is working there?? That he gets students drugs?? That's real bad...try a counselor, parents?
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well see i thought you ment counsler we dont have a pshycologist but also he doesn't get the drugs another guy does that. and i dont do that stuff its messed up.
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Yeah don't drink, smoke, or do drugs it's for your own healthy future and present
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well i am most likly goimg to keep drinking and smokeimg but for personal reasons.
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Oh we'll best of luck to you and like said get parental help for her and even teachers can help
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You can't do anything she took it really hard talk to her friends and get another guy to get her it's not your fault

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Well either let her try to get over you or switch schools

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I don't wanna lose my friends though.
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it seems as though she might have some self asteam issues try too be a friend

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trust me I have.
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Tell her it's not her, you just aren't dating now. Tell her your parents are putting a lot of pressure on you for good grades.

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I'm too nice of a guy to lie
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It's worse for her for her though. She thinks you think she's a skank.
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I never ever said anything like that to make her think she is a skank???
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Trust me, as a woman, that's what she thinks. I know by your writing you are not a mean person and would not say that directly but we women tend not to take rejection well.
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