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How do I get over jealousy? (And some anger)

My girlfriend sometimes doesn't know where to stop, she thinks she's making me feel better but it's actually making things a lot worse. (This is the anger part, by the way) She no longer attempts to make me feel better when something bothers me. Instead she will just jump straight to anger, and she tells people I get mad first (Please do NOT suggest breaking up, I have heard enough about that) When I asked her about it, she says that I "Get mad over stupid stuff". The stuff I get mad over is jealousy stuff (It weaves together). It's usually something small like she calls other guys hot when neither of us are very attractive ourselves, and this can't be an act of equality (trying to get back at me for doing that) because I don't do that. In fact, I always tell her I ONLY like her, Other times I get mad that her friends do stuff to make me jealous purposely, such as grabbing my girlfriends boobs in public and saying "It's normal, all girls do it" yet never in my life have I seen this happen. What can I do to get over the anger and jealousy? Please help me!!!

UPDATE: Last she said "I have a terrible life, and I'm a bad person because I take it out on you"

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Sounds like your girlfriend is a bit neurotic. So if you don't want to break up, you have to live with this. If you stopped being jealous, she might think of some other way to make you jealous. So just stop, she's trying to get a rise out of you, it's not real.

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In the long run, you'll probably find that there is someone else that is better suited to what you're looking for in a person. I am not trying to say 'Break up with her' since i know that 's not what you want to hear, but it is totally normal and a part of life to have relationship with people that trigger you, and then later discover people who are more sensitive or caring. If you like everything else about her, enjoy the relationship, and know that eventually whatever happens, you'll be happier once you know that the person you're with is the right person for you (and it may be her, for all we know, maybe she'll change, though keep in your mind that it might just as easily be someone else in the future)

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Do something that you love like writing or acting to try to take your mind off it. Talk to your friends a lot to they can help you get over what ever it is!

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leave her

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The real question is- why do you think her behavior is in any way acceptable? Because you refuse to break up with her, you are allowing it to continue, and trust me, I've been there and it only gets worse. Are you holding onto memories of how good it used to be?

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You have 3 options my friend....
1. Stay and accept it
2. Leave
3. Therapy

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Great advice hawkman. It really is that simple.
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Its easier said than done
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So true!
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