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How do you get older guys to see you as more then a fling?

im 18, and hes 25. hes well educated and old fashioned. but hes also still got his fun youthful side. i want this to be more then what it is.. but i have no experience with men this mature. hes a really busy guy, idk when i should text, or what i should say.. help?

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He should be at the age where he wants to settle down. If he just sees you as a fling & you want it to be serious then maybe you all aren't compatible. If y'all dont talk much then this is nothing unusual. Just talk to him & find common interests & tell him how you feel. Don't be nervous. Just say "Hey ___ I know you're busy but maybe when you have time, we could hang out(:" or maybe say the same thing except say date if you wanna go in that direction. If it's meant to be itll all work out

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Oh & one more thing: Don't do "anything!"
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thanks, and i really think we are a good match. we have tonnes in common because i am very mature for my age. my past three ex's were the same age, just not as mature as he is. he was texting right after we hung out, then two days later i texted him and no reply. i know thats no big deal and im probably over reacting but its got me worried...
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awh(: it'll work out just fine if it's meant to be. Just be sure not to text-bomb him until its official. If I fall asleep for 2 hours I wake up with 10 texts from my babe lol. But I do the same thing to him
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Try to act mature and dont be a drama queen.

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Lol
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see men your own age

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that's either a conundrum or an oxymoron
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That's how older guys tend to see younger girls; not really a permanent match but okay for "fun" dating. Date guys your own age, for fun, get some experience judging personalities. When you reach your mid twenties, or before that, the mature guys will see you as a girl who knows what she wants and how to get it. Then you will get respect along with the romance.

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don't let him have the 'flung' too early. make him wait for it. that's when they fall in love first.
text him at least once a day and always reply to his.

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I find women to much younger then I hard to have things in common with. We view things differently.

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we have tons in common though, thats not an issue at all
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Maybe you view life differently?
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He practically is a youth. It's not an age thing, he just doesn't want to settle down.

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