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Should I be feeling guilty about this?

I have this friend who I have literally been friends with since we were born. I use to feel we were closer then anyone else I knew, but things have changed. Her parents divorced a few years ago, and since then her behavior has changed a lot. She started dating the wrong types of guys, and doing things she wasn't suppose to, but even still, I stuck with her. Since last year though, she's started dating this guy who is 20 (she's 15), and instead of living with her parents, she lives with her grand mother, who lets her do anything. He got her pregnant, but she had a miscarriage, but she hasn't learned from that experience, and he's gotten her into a lot of bad stuff. She tales me everything cause she trust me, but I feel like she has ruined her life, and with her horrible behavior, I've had all I can put up with, and I've went to her parents, and I told them everything, enough to get her parents to take her to court, where the court's decided she needs to be sent off. I feel a little guilty now though, should I be feeling this way?

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no, you did the right thing.

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wow thats what i was thinking
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good :)
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No don't feel guilty. You did the right thing and even if your friend is mad at you now she will one day thank you. You really saved her life who knows what would have happened next...

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Minji

No. You shouldn't feel guilty. You may have possibly saved her future.

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No if she was doing all this bad stuff, you helped her. if she kept doing this it could have ruined her life and she would regret it all. She may not like you right now but she will be thanking you once she realizes what she was missing. :)

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No. What you did was right....

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I think it's normal to feel guilty about it since you were torn about your friend's well being and your loyalty to her. If it helps, I think you did the right thing. It probably didn't help, but give it some time.

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DolceMonserrat7

No you shouldn't feel guilty...

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Happy valentines day = )
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DolceMonserrat7
Hey happy valentines day:)
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i got my chocolate rocky road waiting when i get home lol
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Haha.... Well I got chocolate cake ha..... Lol my bro is my valentine:)
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good choice = )
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Look no offense but you should've minded your own business. The worst thing you can be is a snitch. It sucks that your friend went down that path but it's her decision. You should've been there for her a try to guide her rather telling her parents on her. That's cold

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FunnyLittleFrog
15 year olds can't make decisions like that. It's not cold. She cares.
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A best friend is like a sibling. You look out for them. You can't expect them to do everything on their own...that's what best friends are for. They help you out when they see you in trouble or in pain.
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She exactly isn't the type of person who listens, if she was, she wouldn't of gone down that path. I was tired of her behavior, and due to her behavior, I'm like the only person who hasn't totally abandoned her, but I just couldn't take it any longer. If I didn't care for her as much, I would have just abandoned her, but since she has no other person there for her, besides the root of her problems, her bf, I couldn't just do that, so I did t he only other thing I knew to do.
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She stopped her friend from going down maybe an even worse path. The only cold thing would be to not do anything and watch her get hurt.
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kazarina
Friendship has a silent responsibility. To protect them & where you can't you ask for help from someone who can help prevent from a life that by the time she comes to her senses she may not be able to free herself of. Don't condemn someone who's only motive is to keep her safe from herself. Some people are a danger to their own well being. I see this is the case from the information provided.
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You're doing the right thing. It proves that you're a true friend! She'll thank you later in life. :)

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No her life.. I am pregnant and 14... But I have no parents and my family is scared of me bu my uncle lets.me do wat i want i get on house arrest he don't care.. My brothers smoke.weed and drink he don't care

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No offence, but maybe t hats why you;re pregnant at 14.
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I wanted to be... I am the b!tch at my school i get in fights alot my.uncle.don't care.
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i will pray for you
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sweetie you sound like you keep doing things because youre not getting the attention you need and you feel like no one cares. I just want to tell you God loves you and He will always care about you. Please fill your void with the Lord cuz you will never find it in anything or anyone else. You have a precious baby you need to do this for. my heart goes out to you and I will keep you in my prayers. :-)
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I guess you can call me a catholic but I can't stand when people keep telling you that God loves you. That is a worthless response from someone that has no answers. It's like when someone tells you that God will fix your problem and that you have to have faith. If the problem is resolved then God didn't but if not then he works in mysterious ways. Makes no sense to me.
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FunnyLittleFrog

No, don't feel guilty. Maybe she is glad, deep down. A girl in my middle school was told on in this way and she said she was glad, although everyone around her didn't like it.

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So what your telling me is that in a cry for help its okay that they allow the courts to get involved? Great friend! Most likely the outcome now will be she will be in and out of juve with more of a rebellious spirit. She should have gone to a counselor and had a sit down with her at the most. She's in pain and what's someone to talk to (really talk to) or someone to take it off of her mind (the boyfriend). I'm not a cold person just a realist.
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No, that was the right thing to do and one day she will thank you.

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No, you did the write thing

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RIGHT u spelled it wronge
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Make sure you right down the write word
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I would call you a hero for save your friend from the wrong hands..

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You're awesome! You may have just made her life change for together. It took alot if courage and compassion to do what you did. I'm very impressed.

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Its common to feel like that. Well, tho there were alternatives, you didnt know what else to do. Well, at least she wont get much worse. And well, you may have saved her soul, but to be more effective, you should talk to her about Jesus.

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Sometimes the hardest things to do in life are the right things. Trust me young one, what you feel now is a lot better than what you would feel if you had said nothing and your friend lost her life. All that is needed for evil to succeed is for good men or women to do nothing. Feel no guilt, you probably saved her life.

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kazarina

You stood up for your best friends safety. That takes courage, love & truly say's you don't want to see her hurt. If you weren't her friend & did that then someone could say you should have stayed out of her business. But in my book doing nothing makes you guilty of neglect so better you feel guilty for doing the right thing rather than for doing nothing while she gets deeper into a life where she isn't safe. My god she is a vulnerable 15 year old girl. U have done the right thing. I have a son who doesn't always make the best choices. It's hard also being a parent seeing your child travel the wrong path in life. Maturity will help her in time see what you did was out of love & caring for her well being. She may take 5 years to understand where she went wrong but one day she will thank you & if she doesn't then she hasn't got the brains to foresee where her life was heading & that is no ones fault but her own. You are a good friend & I hope in time she realizes that.

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