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If an engaged couple breaks up who gets the engagement ring...?

Okay so my parents are splitting up, and now all of a sudden my mom wants her engagment ring back. But when my father proposed to her she said no. Is it still hers, or is my fathers...?

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As harsh as it sounds, it belongs to your Dad. The ring is a symbol of continuity on the commitment between two persons, once that commitment it's broken, the woman should return the ring, indicating the end of such arrangement.

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okay thanks . Im going to explain this to my mom.
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Technically the receiver of the gift item, belongs to them since it was a gift of that person, and would of now rights to it since it was a "Gift" is it morally, and honorably, greed-fully right to hold it, its for them to decide, the respectful thing to do would be to give it back, but theirs no legal issue.
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Let's start at the beginning. How long were they engaged for? Were they ever married to each other?
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She should give the ring back.

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I think your mom deserves the ring.

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Not if they're divorcing, he bought it, and it was a sign of his love for her, thus she has no right to it if she's not willing to try and work things out.
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the ring should be returned

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If she never accepted it, I can't see how she can take it as a gift. The lady-like thing to do whether she accepted before the break up or not is to return it. Why would she have a use for it at this point?

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Im not sure what/why she wants it back. She just all of a sudden claimed it.
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That seems rather odd, I'm sorry that you have to deal with this situation by the way.
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thats okay, i knew it was going to end up like this anyways, they've slowy began splitting up through the years. thanks for the concern.
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Why would you want to look at it and be reminded?
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well, I reckin your mother never had the ring in the first place. so she ain't never had an engagement ring.

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tough call. I know when an engaged couple breaks it off the ring goes back to the person who bought it, because it's considered a conditional gift.
If your father bought the ring I would think it's up to him who keeps it. I know my mother in law and my step mother in law kept their engagement rings after their respective divorces.

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Thanks, nice to get an answer from somone with expirence.
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you're welcome.
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princessbrys76

lol the girl!! duh!! no questions in that ,she can always throw it at him but ring is hers!

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He bought it, and if she's not willing to work through things, she doesn't deserve to keep the ring.
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sweetie u can't argue opinions:)
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If she said no, he gets to keep it. I think its whoever gets dumped keeps it....

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and im sorry about your parents. you doing ok?
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Honestly, I know this sounds harsh, but he payed for it, and gave it as a sign of love for her, but if she/they're not willing to work it out and fall back in love, then her rights to the ring are forfeit... Sorry that this had to happen though, I know how hard divorces can be on the kids (my cousin's folks divorced, it completely tore up the family).

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Aww darn! If she had said yes.. I would say she keep it.. But since she didn't.. I think the ring should be returned...

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the shoes in your profile pic are cute!
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I am so late! Lol but thanks :))
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Rule of thumb...if the female breaks off the engagement, the rings is to be returned to him. If he breaks it off, it stays with her. Since she turned down his proposal, the ring was never hers to begin with. You can't want something back that you never had.

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I've seen that go either way on TV court cases .. Some judges consider it belongs to who ever purchased it .. it is a 'token' or a 'symbol' of a wedding promise .. not just a gift of jewelry.

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The ring is an implied contract for marriage. If they break up the ring goes back to the gentleman.

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The ring goes to the man

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She said no
So the ring belongs to the man
She didn't except the ring -
And now she wants it ?
A ring is the promise of marriage
No marriage - no ring -

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How long were they engaged? Were they ever married to each other?

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Funny this should come up. There are now 3 states where it remains the property of the woman!
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He should get the ring.

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Until marriage, a ring is a conditional gift that's conditioned on the marriage (meaning, in order to keep the ring, they must get married.) However, once the condition is met and the marriage is complete, then ownership of the ring is transferred from the man to the woman. SInce your parents were married, your should get to keep the ring. If they broke off the engagement before marriage, then the ring would be your father's since the condition had not been yet.

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Always the lady, a gentleman never would even think of taking it back,however in officer and a gentleman he swallowed it

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