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Is it ok for me to give this women a choice be my girlfriend or get the walking, we been talking for a month already, Begin it or End it?

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No, it is not ok. You may not do that. It's been only one month. What is it you REALLY want?

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what I really want is a adult relationship
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Sincerity, congratulations, Hall-of-Famer!
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@Andrew-I know that is what you want, but I think what you have here is what's called a "good girl". They don't do that in the first month. So since I know what you really want, I have changed my answer. Leave her. She is too good for you. Go pick up some loser Ina bar, because that's where you'll find what you want. You want an "adult relationship" without doing the work it takes for a REAL adult relationship to evolve. So yes, leave and let her find a good man.
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@medic-thanks sweetie pie !
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@Andrew -I just read all your comments to the other answers. I wish I would have had all that information from the question. You're 39, she's 27. She got pregnant by you? I'm so confused by all the comments you made. I have a third new answer-it's not new , but it sounds like she doesn't want to continue it. Something is telling her to not stay with you so go ahead and break it of and she will let you know later if she wants to be with you. I LERSONALLY think you're too old for a 27 year old. And I think she does too. Sorry.
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personally not learsonaly-mistake.
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A month really isn't very long for her to know you to make a proper decision. Give her heaps more time.

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give a choice

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I did right or another choice
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Well, if you don't value her friendship, you can. So if you are only interested in her for a relationship, and have no interest in her outside of that... yes.

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yes I dont want her as a friend I feel if she didn't choose I be wasting my time
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Then go ahead. She'd probably thank you for letting her know that you're wasting her time.
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Relationships take more effort than just saying yes and getting the title of girlfriend. If you want a REAL relationship, you need to build an emotional connection as well as a physical one. You saying you aren't interested in being friends tells me that you have no emotional attachment to this woman. So I can promise you that your physical relationship with her will likely be short and unsatisfying.
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that's not wasting her time if I want a relationship out of it
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Yes, it is. A mature woman wants a real relationship. You giving her an ultimatum is telling her that either you don't want a real relationship, or you don't know what one is. You giving her an ultimatum tells her that you aren't really interested in her as a person - because if you liked her as a person, you'd still want to be friends even if you didn't have a relationship.
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Yes it is. You giving her an ultimatum tells he that you don't really know what an adult relationship is. It also tells her that you aren't interested in her as a person... because if you were, you'd still want to be friends. Basically, you're acting selfish and shallow. And no real woman wants to deal with a guy like that. So yes, you are wasting her time if you're going to behave that way.
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nope its easy to say that but this woman want it both ways
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Like I said, you don't know what a mature relationship is.
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Sure give her the choice. Let us know how that works for ya? If you're truly interested you wouldn't be asking this

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lol no I am that's why but on the real I feel like im wasting my time
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Long term lasting relationships take a while to develop. If you're in that much of a hurry, go out and buy a relationship. Gracious.

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I guess but I dont want to be use also
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Real "relationships" take time, no "bones" about it. Dawg.

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true, I think I was alittle harsh with it
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It's not okay.. It's only been a month.. END IT!!!!

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no I want her to be my girlfriend or let the relationship headed that way alittle more
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Oh I see.. Sorry.
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o im sorry I wrote the wrong answer to the wrong comment they coming in so fast.I think im going to walk
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Are you going to date her?
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I already ask her the question she getting her kid ready for school after that she said she will give me a answer. but I really dont kno we had relations already (ready between the lines right there) so its not that im really after but just a adult relationship
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She has a child? Don't date her... Unless you and her made that child..
How old is she and how old are you?
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im 39 she is 27 the kid I dont mind since I dont have none
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Woah! There's gonna be drama.. Between the other guy that helped the women have the baby and you.. Oh.. But since you don't mind, date her if you want to.
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no no im listening to you Im walk because really there nofthing there in me for her the only reason I stay this long because I was thinking I had gotten her pregnant by mistake (my protection broke) so when she told me she was fine this week that got me thinking is im wasting my time on her
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Depends on how you feel about her. Just follow your heart and you'll be fine.

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true! my gut saying its time for me to walk
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