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Should I contact him since it's Valentines day? Or never speak to him again?

I've been with this guy for a year and our relationship was long distance since I had to move. I finally moved back to CA and thought things would be better but since we argued our last couple of months when I was away he says feelings have faded and he doesn't know what he wants and wants to work on himself as a person. We agreed before I left to come to CA that we will have a fresh start. When I came we acted like a couple and all but when I asked him if he still felt the same way about our relationship he said he doesn't know. He wanted to talk to me in person to explain himself but I didn't want to hear him say all those hurtful things to me in person. He did when I moved back and saw me for the first time and I hated hearing all that after seeing him in a couple months. We didn't talk at all yesterday and I'm not sure what to do. Should I call him and tell him to meet me somewhere today to talk when I know he's just going to tell me how bad our relationship is and how he needs space and I'll be there telling him I'm here for him and want this. I don't know guys, please help! Any good advice will help me, I'm really confused :/

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Talking in person is always best. If you don't want to do that, then you may have to end it. It takes courage, but you'll always wonder if you don't talk to him.

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A good thing to do would be to call and meet up with him. This would give you an arena to air all your views about your relationship and where it is headed to. It will also give you a piece of mind knowing exactly how he feels and if he will continue with your relationship.

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Well, you've already had this talk in person so what would be the good in having the same conversation again.
The easiest thing would be to agree with him and let go. He wants to work on him, let him. Take that time to work on you.
Just let go.

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yes contact him

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Let him be the one to initiate any kind of communication.

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I feel you. Last Valentine's Day, I did the stupidest thing by giving my crush a really disturbing Valentine's Day card. He was a total gentlemen about it and hugged me with his big muscled sexy arms. But after that he STILL went out with other girls (not to mention grind a few at my first high school dance). I still got to dance with him, but I knew he didn't feel the same way. Now I'm at a new school and have a new crush. I say talk it out with him and show your love so you'll won't end up alone and with a fever on Valentine's Day. Like me.

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