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My bf said he needed space 2 days ago, today is valentine's day, should I buy him a present and call and text him?

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Just get him a nice card, if you push too much he'll black off like a rocket, but at least this way you show that you still care about him.

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Hhmmm ..,. I'm thinking... Timing is telling here.
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He wants space and that's not space. Give him what he asked for.

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What about a phone call?
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I'd say, not now
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That's the opposite of what he said he needed.

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What about a phone call?
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Do u hear yourself?
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No find a new boyfriend.

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Honey, Valentine's Day is about YOU, the girl, you do not buy guys stuff on this day. Maybe a little booty and they will be happy...This is YOUR day to get the gifts, the flowers chocolates kisses and such is all for YOU. He wants space, give him his space, possibly just let him go, b/c if he loved you he would be with you on this day or try getting you back, not have you sitting by yourself...If I was in your situation I'd just leave him alone, go out there and find someone else. Your way to good for him! get yourself a man! Hope everything works out though, best wishes.

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This is encouraging
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Hmmm. I hope my wife doesn't find out about the free Valentine's Day pass that women get. She and I always thought it was about celebrating our love for each other--not just my love for her.
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Who asks 4 space 2 days b4 Valentine's day? That's a chump move. Buy yourself something instead sweetheart.

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And if after today he says he wants you back, make it clear that the Valentine's Day requirement is retroactive--with enhancements.
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dress like a baddass go party and ignore him.... he needed space.

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ignoring always makes a guy like you more
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In most cases when someone say's they need space, it's an indication of the beginning of the end. The best thing to do is to prepare yourself for a separation.

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Look for other one

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Give him room to breathe. This will be good for you as well; it's good to be Independent.

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hell no! hes got someone else. break out your pride and act as if whatever!

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Don't you wonder about guys that break up as holidays approach?
Let him have his space. I say no card or text.

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At least with a card she can say she tried, if he doesn't respond then his actions (or lack thereof) show his true intentions.
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Very good point. I'm stubborn, I wouldn't do it. It wants space, she didn't. Two days before Valentines day? The realist in me says he doesn't want to buy a gift.. Or worse.
Without any scoop on this guy or tjf relationship it's hard to say. Aww... Go ahead, get him a dang card. : )
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Based on past experience, my guess is that "I need space" is the most gentle way he could think of to say "I want to break up." The ball is in his court. He's the one to make the next move since he's the one who initiated the change in the relationship. Go about living your life and be open to other possibilities. But be aware that--and again this is from my personal experience as a male--pushing too hard for a long-term committed relationship and/or time-consuming expectations is exactly what prompts a man to "want more space". Contacting him now in any form is probably the worst thing you can do. You are more likely to get him back by letting him know, by abstaining from contacting him, that you respect his needs.

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Actually, having read a comment by Tony737, I would say a nice, non-committal card that isn't all mushy would be an appropriate action to take. But no direct interaction at this time.
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He is either trying to break up slowly (so as not to hurt your feelings) OR
he is trying to worm out of buying a Valentine's gift. If he tries to get back together in the next two days....tell him you liked the whole space thing and want more.

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