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How do you fix communication problems between you and your fiance?

My fiance told me that he wont tell me everything he's dealing with because he said that I have enough to worry about in my own life. I was rather hurt when he told me this, but I didn't tell him. He said that its not because he doesn't trust me (he said that he trust me), but that he's trying to protect me.
I have communication problems myself and I find it very hard to tell people when they do something that hurts me. Part of my problem is that I'm afraid that I'll be too harsh, because I'm not very good at expressing my self/feelings.
Any advise would be appreciated.

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Well, maybe he was right when he told you that. I dont tell my gf my problems because she makes my problems hers and I have to help her deal with my problems... and its noit really my problems, more like the problems she makes out of my problems. And sometimes we argue because she has solutions for my problems that I dont like or I tell her a problem and she thinks something because of something she said while I was telling her my problems and then we argue and then I try comfurting her. When your fiance sees that you re capable of dealing with problems, then he will tell you. On the meantime, you two shouldnt get married until then. Gby.

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well if he is not going to be honest before the marriage then he is not going to be honest in the marriage. so you really need to find out what he is hiding from you.

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balance out each other's issues. Listen to her, because u are not always right. Be considerate, Listen & then give your opinion. He/She will appreciate that & everything will work out ok.

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May be he didn't wand you to get involve with his problems because you may not handle to pressure. Just let it be. He don't want you to get emotionals.

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both people you and him need to agree first to fix communication problems. relationships, friendships and communication is for two people involved. both accepting responsibility, accepting differences and respect. he knows you well enough that you would get upset that is why he did not share problem. you need to change inside first; then you see change in people in your environment.

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Listen and show you will demonstrate love in whatever he cares to share with you. The rest will follow and communication will deepen. Communication is not a competition. Don't be hurt. Respond to his dilemma with caring. All will be well.

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My fiance (at the time) did the exact same thing. I don't see anything wrong in keeping things from each other when 1) It's not necessary to tell the other person because they really can't do anything to help; 2) Now you will have two people worrying about the issue; 3) Unless the issue truly effects YOU, or both of your lives together then I would let him work out on his own and give him that respect. This whole notion about sharing EVERYTHING with each other is over rated. Being smart about involving each other (especially pre-marriage) will keep things easier for both of you. I totally agree that he could be not wanting to put undue 'stress' on you. We as women always want to know and always want to 'help'. Trust me it's better. After marriage you share alot more so yes, money, family, kids issues should be discussed more openly then.

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My first question to you is - If he did share his problems with you, could you keep it to yourself or would feel the need to share them with a 3rd person? One great thing about marriage is that you don't have to fight your problems alone, it's the two of you against the world so to speak. But only if it stays between the two of you. Communication ( mostly being a good listener) is key to a good marriage. In the beginning, you think giving, compromise and caring about each other is 50/50. After time goes by, you realize sometimes it's 80/20 or 20/80. Much later you realize to have a great marriage you both have to put each other first most of the time. But it's worth it.

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I'd definitely not share with anyone else because I know that I would be betraying his trust if I did. I've already had several people in my life (not my fiance) betray my trust and it hurt a lot. I don't want to hurt him, so I do my best to keep what he tells me to myself. I figured that if he wanted me to get someone else involved, he would tell me.
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he's just trying to protect you. you already have enough to worry about and he doesn't want you pulling your hair out because of stress.

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