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What do you do when you find out that your husband is flirting with other women through email and text messages on a regular basis?

He thinks nothing is wrong with it and that it is innocent. I had to say Happy Valentine's day to him this morning but before I could barely get out the door for work this morning he was texting one of the females with a Happy Valentine's Day.

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If I were you, I would make him stop doing that right away. That is so disrespectful to you. Not only that, that's how lot of the affairs start nowadays.

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Yes, Hun .. there IS something wrong. He can say that it's all 'innocent' all he wants .. but the truth is when you have to start 'competing' for attention and you are not his top priority .. there is something most definitely wrong.

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Confront him about it or you could always make a new account with a different name & be his friend on fb & flirt with him & see how far you could take it & arrange to meet him some place & go there & see if he shows up & then you can really confront him. Just remember once a cheat always a cheat!!!

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Innocent? I don't think so. Have a talk, heart to heart, if that doesn't work, have a heart felt talk with his divorce lawyer!

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I honestly would confront him about it, To have a relationship you have to be faithful and apparently he isn't being faithful. you deserve better hope this helped <3

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Drop him on his head.

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talk about it, tell him how you feel about it. That is not innocent! If it escalates or he doesn't stop I'm sorry to say your just gonna get hurt in the end. God be with you. Happy Valentines day. Good Luck

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He has already left you emotionally. I would oblige him the rest of the way by throwing the rest of his belongings in boxes and putting them on the porch. Change the locks and move on. I'm really sorry he threw this in your face today. What a creep. You will be better when you get rid of him.

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Well, he really hasnt done anything wrong. And you have no idea what he might mean for those women. They could be dying inside and that bit of love he gives them gives them the strength to go forward, what he does is nothing wrong, because he hasnt touched or kissed them in a place or way he shouldnt. But if you really wanna be sure he is true to you, maybe you could try caring about his friends as much as he does. You two are married, the two are one. You should do things together, you should love them as much as he does and you should help him with them. And if it were to be that anything is wrong, well, doing that, you will find out. But your main gloal here is what Jesus said: ''love thy neighbor'' Gby.

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oh wow
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@charris: even more if he lets you see him doing that, maybe he is thinking what I expressed here
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Huh??
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hil53: Maybe her husband wants her to see the women the sane way he sees them, and love them as sisters, the way he does.
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Most American women are not going to go for that. Mine for sure wouldn't like you passion though
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Most people in the world dont love thy neighbor, its not just the women. But sometimes its better to be exceptional. You see, I mean he probably loves them as sisters, no more than that. I know that if my gf didnt love my friends as sisters, I would feel as if she didnt love my physical sister, or my mother, or my family.
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This issue isn't about caring; it's about cheating. The attention he gives these women draws him away from his marriage. He should be concerned with how his wife views the issue and respect her wishes.
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Maybe the attention he gives to these women doesnt draw him away from his marriage. If you were a teacher, would your students draw you away from your marriage? Do your bffs draw you away from your marriage? I rather save a life than respect a wish that if I do, I could loose someone and feekl giulty for the rest of my days, but if I dont, the worst that will happen is she will get upset. She should do what I said. That way, she will be better and know the truth all in one. Plus having more control over the situation.
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Bryan, if he was having a sisterly or neighborly relationship with the women, his wife would have been aware of the relationships from the start. He would have been open and honest with her and left her no reason to doubt. He is having emotional affairs at the very least.
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She is. He texts them in her presence. And he hasnt said anything I wouldnt say to my sister according to the information provided here. He might (notice I putted this as something uncertain) have even told her. Any reason for doubt is not trusting him. You know how many times a guy tells a gal something and she doesnt believe him. I have a gf that doesnt believe things I tell her sometimes. I tell her she is beautiful, she doesnt believe me. Somethiung s got me down and she thinks its her. I tell her its something else and she doesnt believe me. That might be the case.
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I know im just 13 but i would have a long talk with him. If you have a talk with him don't blame him for stuff and do not make assumptions or judge him. i hope i helped you!

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You re very mature for your age.
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Thank You!
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You may want to warn him not to do that. Don't start an argument, just say I caught you flirting with these other woman and I don't think you love me truly. (Make sure you fake cry, walk out of the house with bags, and see if he runs back to you). Or mumu plate him! Or another idea, is flirt with other men and make sure he sees. I would go with the first one tho.

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Make sure her face crys? If she doesnt feel like crying, that would be hypocrecy. Or lie. And I m pretty sure that he shows his love for her in many ways. If she tells him that she doesnt feel he lioves her, then it means she doesnt notice all the good things he does for her. He would feel offended that after so much, she still doesnt believe he loves her. He could even leave her for that. And about making him jealous, if she flirts with other men and he trusts her and doesnt get jealous, then what? And if she begins to flirt with wrong people, he may get jealous, but then when she stops flirting with them, they will go get her... You have no idea how full of psychos the world is today. If both do wrong, they are both guilty, and no one gets defended, but if one does right, then one is justified.
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Talk to him and if he doesn't stop then kick his a$$ out.

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Confront him

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If it makes you uncomfortable then tell him to stop if he doesn't then its time to make new choices

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Marriage counseling.

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He obviously doesn't want your husband :( I'm sorry. But that is the truth. Tell him you found out and discuss it. There may be another Sid e to the story.

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It called cheating, so now what would
You do??

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I wouldn't have this iPhone, if my wife thought I was doing that. Probably be missing a couple other things also

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Kick His A**

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Give him
His last kiss
Before you
Change the locks!

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It's a shame that your husband is cheating and still trying to do so since you have been so valiant and caring in the relationship by trying to hold it together. 50 years from now when looking back at your life, if you stay with him without taking the chance to find someone to love you the way you love them, do you think it will be something you regret?

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It's really tough when the person with whom you said your life long vows doesn't honor them or you anymore. These are not "sisterly" acquaintances. This is not a game. It makes no difference whether these communications are in person or online or by phone. When they mean more to him than you do, no amount of talking is going to solve his problem, unless he is emotionally disabled or ill. If that's the case, he needs professional help and you need some peace. Please seek help from a clergy person, psychiatrist, or legal counselor. This situation can take far more from your soul than you can realize, now. Please get help. I will pray for you. Be strong. You'll make it.

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I hope she read the part you wrote about this taking away a part of her soul . This was really a sad question. Your answer is so tender Souix Bee.
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Been there, done that! Husband #2, the sociopath.
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oh i would be telling him that needs to stop he is with you not you and all these other woman he should only be flirting with you you need to nip that in the butt now

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I would say not to make assumptions, as long as they are just texts!

BUT to make it end you need to bring the excitement back into the marriage!!! I have been married for 10 years now and know with life and kids you need to keep things interesting.

Remember the reasons you fell in love!!! Things become boring and routine after a while if you let them! Find your beautiful sexy feminine side and try surprising him! Wear sexier clothes, surprise him by wearing a sexy dress high heels and nothing underneath!

Mix it up and keep your mans eyes on YOU!!! Trust me, I've had to think up a lot of sexy surprises throughout our 10 years, but it works and to this day he can't keep his hands off me!!!

And most of all tell him everyday how much you love and appreciate him!

I hope this helps you! Good luck sister! Now go fall in love all over again!

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