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Why can't i give my girlfriend SPACE?

our relationship is about 6 months now ,initially i was very happy with her and m still happy, she loves me very much and also she gives me enough time whenever she has .but recently past 2 months we are fighting a lot and i know that all the fights which starts originates from me..for example,when she hangs around with her close friends who dont knows about our relation she dont talk to me and that makes me bad,if she couldn't call up at a particular time she told me that she will i ll go mad,i go mad at the very small issue like why she didnt asked me about wheather i had lunch or not,i dont know whats happening,i trust her biut i am getting over possesive about her,please help me.

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Sounds to me like it could go both ways ... I have a friend who was going through the same thing... and from what i got from it she wasn't interested about him the same way he was... back to you now: sounds like you're taking your relationship into a whole different level (that next step... ) and she's not because if she was she would be talking about you with her friends and even call you up or whatever in that sense. C'mon girls like to talk about their bf's and blah blah blah... Now the other way: But you're saying here that you two started arguing 4 months into the relationship and i do think it might be getting to her, she might loose interest... straight up, if you got trust issues or possessiveness of some sort you need to work on them, issues like that don't just appear it's like a trigger, you act a certain way because of a past fear, failure, ect... In conclusion, she might not be ready for that next step or she's just not that interested... or you got some hidden issues you got to work on

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This is something that you need to talk to your girlfriend about. It is possible that you feeling insecure about her and therefore, it is important that you communicate. You also need to build your trust and know that you need to work together to make this thing happen. Knowing that she loves you is fulfilling enough and that should give you reasons to become less possessive about her.

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only person that can help you is you. sounds to me like the relationship is not good at all. time to move on to a new fishing hole.

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Your insecurity is going to cause you to lose her.
First and foremost, without trust, there is no real relationship. If you're hung up on this, go get some help to work thru this problem.
Second, commitment is harder then it seems. If she won't communicate with you at certain times, or her close friends don't even know about you; well it sounds like she's only half in???
Have a candid talk with her and go from there. Yes, it's hard but without it, you will ultimately push her away entirely.

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You're worried about her cheating on you. You WANT to believe you can trust her, and your subconscious mind is tricking you into thinking you do. But your heart will not back down from what it feels is going on. Your heart and mind sees that your girlfriend is going places with her closest friends who don't even know about your relationship. The difference is your heart wants to act on it, and your mind does not. It seems that your heart is trying to act upon the situation, but since your mind refuses that to happen, the heart is using all the anger it has over her cheating ways to other things about her. Like why she didn't ask you some question that really isn't important at all. Once your mind and heart get on the same page and confront her on wether or not she's cheating and only then will you both stop fighting. It may back to the way it use to be, it maybe better, or she may leave you because she knows you know. Deal with the problem at hand stop trying to tell yourself you trust her, when in your heart you know your angry at her, and what she maybe doing.

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This is why you kids need to date around first before getting into a relationship, had she known you were a control freak she probably wouldn't have agreed to be your GF. You need to either lighten the heII up or just do the girl a favor and let her go before you physically hurt her. Then her Dad will hurt YOU.

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please don't be offended, but you have control issues that need to be addressed. if you are that controlling with a girlfriend, you are endangering this and any future relationships. please seek help from a therapist, counselor, pastor, etc. the path you are heading down is very dangerous to your partner as well as to you.

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You are absolutely right.
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Everyone here is telling you to stop. So do what we suggest. You came here seeming help. We answered. Just believe in yourself and trust her. And if she does do something behind your back and you find out. Let everyone and dump her. No guy wants to be with a 2-face. Not saying she is. But trust her right now. With everything you have. And do this if something bad DOES happen. That's it. Nothing more. It's that easy.

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Hey kid it seems you really dig this girl and all but you do need to give your gf some breathing room. She likes hangin with her friends so you got to let it go. You said you trust her so give her space. Stop getting mad all the time or going to push her away. You're young so go hang with your friends

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Mr 551749: you've got a lot of issues. Anger management. Immaturity. Insecurity. And that's only what I can see from what you wrote in your question. You certainly are not ready for a mature, adult, romantic relationship.
Get some counseling.

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I guest she don't want to be embarrass in front of her friends. She would get annoyed like what happen to me when I text her. Don't bother her for a while and if she's alone or something then go

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