Submit a question to our community and get an answer from real people.
Submit

Should I forgive my boyfriend?

That night he bring me to Romantic Cruise and give me a diamond ring (real) he said the next year he going to give me another ring at the Church and he said i'm the only woman in his heart. Weeks later when we went back to our home town. When i came back from shopping, i heard my boyfriend talk to another girl and said the same thing, he said that she is the only woman in his heart and he gave a present which i don't know what is it. Now its valentine day, he put the roses near my door, its a very big, beautiful, white roses. It wrote: I'm sorry, i promise i won't lie you and cheat on you. My boyfriend is a nice guy. If he promise something he actually did. Then i look down my window, he open a song and carry and big poster written "will you forgive me?"... What do you think?

Report as
This answer contributed to Susan G. Komen for the Cure® What's this?
My answers support Susan G. Komen for the Cure® What's this?

Gifts don't mean crap, he sounds like a scum bag to me...

Helpful (13) Fun (5) Thanks for voting Comments (14)
Report as
Best piece of honest advice here. Stars.
Report as
D: ok
Report as
Sounds like he's out there tryin to buy love...tisk tisk.
Report as
Everyone knows you can't buy love. You can rent it, but you can't buy it.
Report as
Yup!
Report as
Around $2 a minute...or so I've heard
Report as
Gifts mean a lot actually, but he is crap yes.
Report as
candybar
Piece of scum.
Report as
HIS gifts don't mean crap. Not when he's tossing em out to every skirt that walks by...
Report as
Thanks for an advice but what i actually did is i scold at him in the phone (opps it might be a little bit mean) "Don't give me any flower again, miney can't buy happiness and love idiot. Last night, there is a guy i found at my bedroom, talked to his ex and said she is the only woman in your life. Go live with her then." And later, he sent me a billion apologize mails and messages, he said: "I know money can't buy happiness, but it can buy the smile just for a while. Thats what i want to see, half second smile makes my heart stop, the world stop spinning. Please, i still want to see your smile not with her. I hope you will reply me, i won't marry a princess, but i will treat her as a princess :-))" THATS WHAT HE SAID! But i still angry him.
Report as
Glad I could help!
Report as
Sweet talker--doesn't mean a thing, not a thing.
Report as
Nope. Not a thing...
Report as
Amen to us! Hope she finds the courage and self-respect to dump this loser. It would be terrible if she got pregnant and was stuck with the dude, or with raising a baby all alone and without financial support.
Report as
Add a comment...

Aww I think you should forgive him. Lol

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

If he went through all that trouble to get you to forgive him, I would forgive him.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (2)
Report as
Are you freaking kidding??
Report as
Trouble???that was easy!
Report as
Add a comment...
Phlorence_602

It's up to you..
But if I were in your position, I'll forgive but not forget.
I'll not give him a second chance.
That's it...

Helpful (8) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I would forgive him just this time.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

This matter can only be resolved through communication. You need to sit down with him and talk about it. Let him assure you that he is truly sorry and that he wants you over the other woman. You could forgive him and see if he is able to keep his promises.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

You can forgive, but it doesn't mean you should forget. Make him earn your trust.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Ya I would forgive him once :)

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Sounds like he's a very good 'Player' that got caught....

Helpful (7) Fun (2) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

It's possible he's changed his ways, but I wouldn't think it's very likely. If it were me I wouldn't trust him.

Helpful (8) Fun (3) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I would forgive him, but keep a closer eye on him in general.

Helpful (2) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

If he's cheating on you find some more evidence then find how many more women he cheating on then if keeps doin this dump him. He's an ass if he's cheating on more than 2 girls at once

Helpful (2) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

He's definitely a player, fast talking, smooth walking cheater. Dump him before you get some STD, pregnant, or your heart broken. I wouldn't even think twice about it.

Helpful (6) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Do what ur heart tells
U to do !

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

If he did it once, he will do it again. You need to have respect for yourself. No one deserves to be played with in such a manner. You can do a lot better my dear.

Helpful (3) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

What I know is he is not to be trusted. He got caught! You heard everything. I couldn't be able to forget about it. It'll always be in the forefront of my mind... Forgiveness is healthy way of life but I couldn't be with someone I can't trust.

Helpful (4) Fun (2) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

You shouldn't forgive him. He said "Your the only woman in my heart" to you and to the other girl. How do you know he's not still cheating on you or gave some roses to the other girl, also? Just find someone else.

Helpful (3) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Like Momma always says " Once a cheater always a cheater!"

Helpful (5) Fun (2) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

He's a liar and a cheat. Rid yourself of him or you will live to regret it.
I'll bet the other girl got flowers and a big apology sign, too.

Helpful (8) Fun (4) Thanks for voting Comments (5)
Report as
But he's sooooooo nice! bleh...
Report as
Ted Bundy was nice, too ;)
Report as
Lol!
Report as
At least it's not a bag of fancy chips and tulips. LOL
Report as
LMFAO! 8)
Report as
Add a comment...
candybar

Get the ring appraised. 20 dollars says its a fake!

Helpful (5) Fun (2) Thanks for voting Comments (3)
Report as
Yep...and he probably has a drawer full of them at home...
Report as
candybar
I believe it!
Report as
Haha, ... A drawer full.
Report as
Add a comment...

Do what your heart tells you to do.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

He is not true to you!! You don't deserve that!!

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

dont ditch him. talk to him about it. the gifts were sweet, but if he cant talk to you about it, its not worth it. if you really love him, forgive him. just remember the day he cheated on you, and be careful...

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

He is not "your boyfriend" he belongs to probably several girls, if you like this type of relationship with all the romantic drama then ya....forget about it.

Helpful (2) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
JuggaloPride

Do what you think is best.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I recently found out my fiancee was on an online dating site and having a few conversations with girls, nothing bad just calling then beautiful or sexy. when I found out, I was so mad and shuff but we have a baby together and stuff but if he ever repeated things yay he's said to me to another girl, OR bought another girl a gift, I'd be gone. because someone who loves you, wouldn't do that. That's crossing the line. I'm sure if he got her gifts or was staying that stiff to her then he's sleeping with her. It'd be in your best interest time leave before get even more into it.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
iamrandom123

He thinks if he keeps giving you stuff you will forget and forgive what he did. You have to do what's best for you. If you have a feeling he will do it again then leave him.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Wait! Take a few weeks to forgive him just to make sure he means it , make him feel the pain he gave you.

Helpful Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Chanelle101

I wouldn't forgive him. But then again I don't know him. If he did it once he can do it again. Do what your heart tells you :)

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

i would give him a second chance but always keep a open eye and dont fall into a possition to get hurt keep a wall up intill you can define trust .

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

i dont think you should, i mean he was cheating on you, so what if he gave you gifts he still cheated on you and that other girl. you should just leave his sorry butt and move on with your life

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

were all human and we all screw up, you can give him another chance, being inhumane is bad...

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

NO NO NO NO. just no. unless you trust enough that it wont happen again, you can. but if you're worried it'll happen again, don't take him back.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Nope, stick to your guns, there are plenty of fish in the sea..... Is this REALLY a great way to start a serious relationship with someone? I don't think so.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (1)
Report as
And pawn the ring, treat yourself to a spa day
Report as
Add a comment...

no

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

But why did he hit on another girl a week ago? Who was that. Gestures are one thing but is he honest or selfish and just going to do it again. Plus the trust is lost. Only you know...

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

he cheated on you once, he'll do it again. happened to me.

Helpful (2) Fun (1) Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I think you have to ask yourself if you're the type of girl who can be bought with trinkets. The truth is, if he's the kind of guy who needs to promise never to cheat again, he's not worth it. People don' t change & you can't change. He has no reason to change. Obviously this line & a few gifts has worked for him before and he's using it on you. If I were you, I'd be appalled and would find someone who is already a match for you, not a fixer upper who will just fall back into the same old patterns. I have a rule, a guy betrays me emotionally or by cheating... he's gone. There are good guys out there, why settle for him? Guys will apologize for anything. Actions matter. Gifts, notes, posters, that's not what you need. You need someone who will put you first, your feelings & your relationship ahead of his own selfish "desires" btw, you deserve someone who only desires you! If I were you, I'd never keep a man like him. No matter how nice of a guy he might seem sometimes. Maybe you should take some time to examine yourself, self esteem and figure out what makes you think you deserve to be treated like this? Why else would you even question if you deserve better?

Helpful (3) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Forgive him cause he made a mistake but its something you should not forget

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Don't forgive him. My ex boyfriend did that, and now he's dating a different girl.

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

i would forgive him, but he has to guarantee you that you are the ONLY one that he loves. and if you caught him doing anything with anyone else, let him know real fast that its over. and he had his chance. my boyfriend cheated on me and i forgave him and he hasnt even looked at another girl since i forgave him. it works.. well it depends on the dude. :/

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Dont forgive that dirty scumbag liar

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

Forget him to have a new start, I suggest you forget him.

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

don,t say anything take your time and give him also some time to make him realize your importance

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

if he cared he wouldnt have cheated

Helpful (1) Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...

I would forgive him

Helpful Fun Thanks for voting Comments (0)
Report as
Add a comment...
Do you have an answer?
Answer this question...
Did you mean?
Login or Join the Community to answer
Popular Searches

About - Privacy - AskEraser - Careers - Ask Blog - Q&A - Mobile - Help - Feedback ©2013 Ask.com