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What helps you to care and be motivated when you feel this way?

I have intense emotional feelings: I feel guilt over being manipulated (feeling bad about the long hours in my room, and not having time to interact with people because of it.) and feel bad about a fight with my mom. in order to avoid the heart pounding, shaking anxiety from these emotions, I've allowed myself to go emotionally numb. that really helps, but it also blocks out my ambition, and my motivation. I have an essay due wed: I need to be diligent and work hard. normally, as odd as this sounds, I love to write papers. I like to think "philosophically" about my topic, and give in depth. But, because I feel so dead inside, I'm having a hard time even caring about starting. how can I be motivated while feeling this way? how can I feel passionate and ambitious? it's either numbness, or anxiety. my "over-active guilt organ" makes me feel guilty after a comment made, about being busy in my room, causing me angst. I can't write in angst. anyway, sorry for the essay, tips?

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Sorry you're having a hard day. There's a difference between "setting aside" the bad, and "shutting down." Sounds like you shut down. That really doesn't help much. The tears stop, but nothing replaces them. You know the issues with your folks are going to take a long time to work out. So now, you're trying to figure out how to cope with the rough times. Did I read that right?
You can "close a door" in your mind on the recent argument. Dwelling on the latest fight doesn't help. But how do you "open a window" on your positive productive self?
I use visualization. I take a shower and picture myself washing away the fight. When I slide open the shower curtain, I'm opening my heart to me. I make myself do something productive. I start with something simple and focus only on the task. Sometimes I have to talk out loud. "Not now Happy! You're only allowed to focus on the job, silly!" I always make sure to be gentle with myself. I don't like the sound of the critical voice. I don't respond to it. Others do, but not me.
"When God closes a door, he opens a window," takes an odd twist with this analogy. I hope it works for you!

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*Taking a writing break... *writers block* but yes, you're absolutely right, I have kinda shut down :/ thanks for your tips! I'm going to try them.:) I started to focus for a little bit, till the thoughts started flooding again... But I love your "not now" tip. Sometimes that works.
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And yes-trying to find ways to cope-mine aren't working, at all :/
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Yea. Sometimes I have to switch to really simple jobs for a bit, like dusting. I can focus on the nooks and crannies of knickknacks. Music helps too. I can listen during those little jobs, but it distracts me from bigger stuff.
Oh yeah! Sudoku puzzles engage my mind. After a few of those, I've changed my chemistry.
Glad you're back to writing! If you need a break, I'll cheer you up with a joke. Oh wait. I only know d!rty ones.... JK! :)
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Yea, it's an essay for my film class. Getting stuck for a minute hear, and can hear my mom laughing, and we're kinda in a fight... I need closure and an understand, productive convo in order to move on, and stuff with my dad too... Both of which need to wait, however. But I think your tips should help for now, thank you :) only one that understood my question! Aha, dirty jokes are the best though xP I've got one..... A white horse falls in the mud.... Now that's just FILTHY!
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*here. (Sheesh... Typos again!)
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Try listening to some music, or maybe text a friend :)

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Orroco

excersice and socialization helps

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JuggaloPride

Manson and talking.

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DolceMonserrat7

Talk to someone, go out for a walk, music, take a shower... Hope you feel better...

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I always talk to someone

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