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How can I get my mom to stay out of my business?

She's been so annoying lately... Since I need to get all of my feelings out there, and don't have anyone I want to talk about it with, I resort to a diary that I've typed as a document on my laptop. My mom keeps looking at them, and I just want her to stop because she's being so nosy and I don't want her to! And don't even try to tell me it's because she cares about me, because I know that, but this is way too much. I keep telling her to stop being so nosy and annoying and to stop trying to get into my personal life, because I WANT SOME SPACE. I hate her for being so clingy! I'm a teenage girl and I think I deserve some privacy!

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You definitely deserve your privacy. I agree with you there. I think you should tell her how you feel. You can start with telling her how much you do hate her. and WHY you now hate her. She probably needs to be reminded that she too was once a teenage girl and you would like to know how she would feel if the shoe was on the other foot. You can try to have a CIVIL conversation with her.... and let her know the conversation is over if it becomes uncivil..... Let her know how you feel. Let her know that you KNOW what she expects of you... and that you have paid attention to everything she has tried to teach you. Let her know that you are responsible and not just a needy clingy child anymore.
Be honest with your mother....and expect to get some constructive criticism from her too. Find out why she doesnt trust you.

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You do deserve privacy. Keep the diary in a USB thumb drive and not on the computer. Problem solved. Or, . . When she's in her room, just walk past her and start pulling things out of her closet, and when she complains, say that is is similar to her looking through your computer writings.

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I agree that you need privacy but I'm not sure how to make her stop! Sorry I couldn't be of more help! :)

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just let her think she's reading your diary, keep the real one hidden .....and locked with a password if you think she'll find that one too

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I think you should get over it. But my advice is become flawless. My mom has no need to bug me cause I'm independent yet reliable. Usually parents are worried that they can't help and so the bug you and I reversed it on my mom. And so once every few months she asks and I grin tell her some extended text and fill it back on her.

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That you call her clingy is another thing that makes you sound rude.Makes me wonder if you speak to her like that. Suck it up and be happy she at least cares enuf to be there !!

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Just curious..are you probably writing/doing something that a parent should be aware of but knowing it is wrong, thus you want to keep her in the dark?

With that said, It is HER duty as a parent to guide and make sure you are not led astray.
It is tough love, it is tough being a teenager, granted, but it is tougher being a responsible and concerned parent. Be glad she worries about your welfare.So many don't:(

You need to nicely ask your mom to sit and discuss your private issues.
If you have nothing to hide,It should not be hard to discuss. Be honest in your conversation, tell her you know she cares, and that you would not do anything to hurt either of you, but you feel you should have growing space and it would mean a lot to you if she trusted you.
Maybe if you share your day's activities with her, she will not be so into checking up. It is all about trust and communications. Take care..You have a good mom there dear..

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Be lucky your Mom cares - some parents could careless what their kids do.

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Maybe you should talk to her more about the other things you don't mind sharing with her and then maybe she will ease up on your other business.

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get a job and support yourself 100% and live in your own home that you souly pay for and maintain as long as you are living in your Moms home she is the BOSS. even if your are in your 30 s 40 s 50 s and so on.

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Mom if you want to know what I'm doing ask me, and trust me, but my thoughts are private and going into my diary is not right, it is affecting how I feel about you. I want us to have a good relationship but when you read my private documents I feel it's a violation and you are driving a wedge between us that I think you would probably like to keep open. ........Of course sweetie, you should give her a few tidbits of your life so she feels a part of it, it's a mothers need to want to be a part of what's going on with you so if you give a bit she might as well.

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