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Should the host of a babyshower provide a babyshower gift if they are solely responsible for the cost of the babyshower?

I'm hosting a baby shower and it's already putting me out $75 (just for the food) plus providing a decorated cake and minor decorations. I feel slightly guilty at the thought of not having one, but on the other hand, I feel as if the shower and cake (with no help from anyone else) is enough. Your thoughts?

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You already gave the gift

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Your gift IS the shower. She will know that. Don't feel guilty, that will be enough.

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True very true
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you have gone above and beyond. you have done yourself proud. gold medal for you.

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Ha ha!
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You have done something exceptional for a friend. I don't think a gift is required or expected (at least I hope she doesn't expect one after the shower) but, you could, if you can afford it and so choose, get something small and inexpensive, something that won't put a bigger dent in your budget.

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You probably need to give a wedding gift. Your shower was the shower gift. (It's traditional to give 2.) buy something on her registry for about $15.

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You can go back and forth on this, personally I would buy her something, even a small gift card to Bed,Bath and Beyond if you can afford it, It's the nice thing to do.

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No, you are giving the shower, that is sufficient...

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I think throwing the shower at your expense is gift enough! Especially if you are not related. If you really feel guilty maybe offer to babysit after the baby arrives so she can get some much needed time to herself!

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For the correct answer you should look in to what Emily Posts says. There are books by her and others on proper etiquette. Personally I would give a small token gift to open, but that's just me.

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