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How can I accept my dads girlfriend?

I can't stand my dads girlfriend. She's arrogant, rude, self centred.. you name it. Shes changed my dad so much... and I hate it! My dad isn't the same.... I still love him but Its getting to the point where I don't even want to see him anymore because of her. I can't just ignore her either... her presence instantaneously bothers me. I can't even have a normal conversation with my dad without her voicing her opinion, or intruding in our conversation. I just can't handle this.. and I don't know what to do. I never tell anyone usually how I feel.. especially my dad. I just feel as if I'll upset him and I don't want that happening. What should I do? I don't want her taking my father away from me.

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Phlorence_602

You need to learn how to NOT worry about you losing your dad.
Someone asked a similar question just now.
And i'm going to tell you the same thing.
Just be yourself.
Some wise person once told me "give help even if ou don't receive help"
Be nice even if she isn't nice to you, you're always gonna be the only love of your dad's life.
Just don't give him a reason to get mad at you or anything.

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Thanks :)
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Well said Phlo
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You'll always be daddy's girl, no matter what. She is trying to be the Queen and he'll accept that. But you have to tell her if she makes you happy, you'll let her get her way with her stuff with dad! ( You're her bridge! Tell her not to burn it! )

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I think you should talk to your dad. It may upset him, but that's family sometimes. You two should spend some time together, doing something fun so that you can bond again.

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listen i've been through the same thing but i dealt with it i stayed myself and neglected her as much as possible until she couldn't handle seeing me happy she questioned me why i was so rude to her i was like just because Ur with my father doesn't mean Ur my mother no women in the world can replace here so after that she understand how i felt and was less ignorant and stupid childish self centered haha but now shes really close to me and we r like sisters although I'm 14 and shes 31 more then double my age she understands me and can help me with my problems weather its boys or friends or even school work u name it she is capable of helping me with it i know u may not like her now but u will always be daddy favorite no matter what :-)

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You have to understand that no matter how much it seems that you're daddy is not on you're side, you will always be number one in his life. It's tough trying to get along with your dads love life but try to make the best of it. Be the better person and be respectable no matter what age you are because you never know how long we all will have our parents close. Being humble don't make you weak. It makes you wise

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What they all said! You've got some very wise friends in this community. I will try to add just a little more insight. She is afraid of you and the power you have over your dad. Keep that in mind and it may become useful. She is trying to drive you away and it sounds like it is working! Don't let that happen. That's the satisfaction she wants! Don't give it to her!
Kill her with kindness! Be her best friend. Be the first to open the door for her. Take her a cup of tea! Help her with putting groceries away. Smile. Ask her questions about herself. Do NOT sulk, roll your eyes, or complain. You do not have to like her or accept her. Just live with her and make your life and your Dad's life comfortable by getting along. A friend once told me, "Fake it till you make it!". You might be surprised that by faking it for long enough it may become natural and she won't feel as hostile toward you. Just don't let her drive that wedge between you and your dad! Good luck being the mature adult woman in the household!

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The day you decide to accept her as part of dads life is the day this will all change. I guarantee that she wants you to like and accept her. Bite your tongue curb your attitude and do your best to befriend her. Ask her to do something with you mall shopping or something -then ask her questions and try to get to know her. Tell her it's been hard for you to accept the changes, but you want to get along well with her. Tell her that alone time with dad is something you need and him having a girlfriend means less time for you. Ask her what she thinks you could do to spend time alone with him that she would be able to feel ok with as well. They always say keep your friends close but keep your enemies closer. They also say you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. Give it a try!

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Oooooo! Well said! Wish I could give you more than one star!
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