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My boyfriend and i have been dating for 6 months now and one day he just didn't seem the same and it didn't seem like he felt the same way about me anymore. He started to get more angry and annoyed with me and we started fighting. I think we fought for two and half weeks straight. It literally felt like he hated me and i felt like he got annoyed when i asked what was wrong and told him it didn't feel like he loved me anymore. To try and help our realtionship we didn't talk or text at all for a week and the day we talked we fought worse and then went another week without talking and fought again so he suggested that we take a break, but not break up. I dont think he understands the way i feel and he keeps breaking his promises. He said that we would still talk all the time and stuff like that but we havent talked really for a week. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO! Please help?:'(

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Hi, Sammy. I always try to be truthful with people, but I don't want to hurt their feelings. But I really feel like you need to break up with this guy sooner than later because #1, you don't deserve to be treated like this and, #2, I have a deep feeling down in my heart (and from experience) that he's found someone else. I'm so sorry to say that, but he's got the classic symptoms. All of a sudden treating you like you're nobody, arguing with you all the time and seems to just try to find things to argue about. I wouldn't wait. I break up with him before he thinks he has the privilege to break up with you. He has no right to treat you that way, and you certainly have every right to EXPECT to be treated like you're SUPPOSED to be treated. Get to him before he gets to you and then hold you head up high and move on. BTW, get on YouTube, look up Gloria Gaynor's "I Will Survive" and if that doesn't make you feel strong, I don't know what! I wish you the best, honey. And just be brave. The right one's waiting out there for you, but this is not the one!

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I do also think that he has found somebody else and i think i know who it. Just to let you know, me and him are over. We occassionally talk though. I didn't shut him completely out of my life, but yes we are over. I couldn't handle being treated that way anymore..
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Honey, I know it hurt, but I'm so very glad to know this. Remember, a princess needs to be treated just as that. He is not you Prince. There is someone in the future who is looking for someone just like you to pamper and take care of, and the last thing he'll want to do is hurt you in this way. Just wait on him. Don't be in a hurry. If you decided to keep him in your life, that's your decision, but PLEASE don't let him convince you this was a one-time thing. Just don't, because it won't be, just please take this from an old woman's experience. I care a lot and I just want to teach younger people from the mistakes I've learned in my life. Please take care of yourself, sweetie. And thanks for writing back.
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Brake up

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brake*? r we trying to stop a car?
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Lol
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mooooove on

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Brake up

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It is time to find someone else. You dont want to be in a relationship with someone like that. If time passes and you guys want to get back together, you can, but it isnt working right now.
Dating is how you find out who you want to be with later in life..... It seems as though this is NOT the person for you. So keep dating.

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break up with him

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Just sit down with him and talk about it. Both of you should be honest with each other, share your real opinions, and go from there. Just stay calm; It'll all work itself out.

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We've tried that many times, and things didnt get any better. It's over now.. it has been for about a month now.
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Nothing much, he's losing interest because the relationship is getting boring. You are going to have to start taking an interest in what he likes and finds interesting now if you want to salvage it!

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ooooo my that sounds like u want her to become a STAlker .....
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I thought only two willing people can salvage something. not a very accurate answer here dazzle
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Nah, just the opposite! She needs to have other guy friends! ( Like turning her cap around and doing guy stuff, almost Tomboyish!) He'll freak out!
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Touch' Chegarrl. Dazzle, it takes two to tango, and he's not interested, except maybe in someone else, and this person needs to be who they are. Nobody needs to change for anybody else. He can do the changing. He's the one that's starting the arguments. He just needs to move on. I think that's what he wants anyway.
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You're right! It is a two-sided street! We just don't if she or he go up and down the same road. Kinda would like his input so, the Ask community can better help!
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I doubt very seriously he would care to give input. It seems to me he doesn't care at all. But I guess, at least in your eyes, "it seems to me" would be four operative words. ;-)
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The big picture looks like he is not happy in this relationship any more and is fighting with you because he either doesn't have the guts to break up with you or is being "noble" and trying to force you into doing the breaking up. Either way all the talking in the world isn't going to do any good. It's over! Why would you want to stay with anyone who doesn't want you ? He certainly isn't the best you can do! He proves that with every fight and he keeps hoping you'll get the message. Smile sweetly and say goodbye. Move on.
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I would assume you are young or had this boyfriend on hormone impulse. Also this story seems to be very one sided. Unless he is on some form of medication that could cause a mood swing, just break up with him. You should break up either way but the mood swing part just means be careful.

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I am 15 and this relationship happened, because we liked each other. We loved talking to each other all the time and everything. we trully loved each other. It wasn't because of hormones. And he does not take any medication.
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I think it's over, and I think he doesn't know how to tell you. Stop seeing him. Wait for a little if you want, to see how he reacts to your being gone from his life. If he questions it, tell him he needs to act like he wants you around or you aren't going to BE around.

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Give yourself a / break. Understand? Perhaps, your relationship is ending/over. Givers give and Takers take, always. Have the "Heart" to move on to something or someone who see you in a different light. "Shadows" don't hide everything.

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shadows....you mean stalkers.
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"H" no! Way out of context.
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I am guessing that you are thirteen, because of your choice of user name. Am I right? Well, five years from now, if you look back at this, you will smile and agree with what I am about to tell you.
You are too young to settle on the first boy to come along. It's like dessert. How do you know which is your favorite, if you have only sampled one? At your age, you shouldn't have a boyfriend. You should talk to, and be friends with, a lot of boys, to determine exactly what type of personality is right for you. Nobody finds "Mr. Right" this quickly. Consider this a blessing, and move on with a different plan If you were to be friends with many boys, at you school, in your neighborhood, even while on vacation; I bet that in a year or two, this guy won't even be in the top three. So go out and mingle. Life is not that dramatic, really.

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No, i'm 15. I only put 1313 because it is my fav number and it's easy to remember. And i think 15 is old enough to have a boyfriend. And i know what kind of guy i want, he's all those things, but also he has flaws that i don't think i can handle anymore. Thank you for trying to help though, i appreciate it.
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All that fighting Is already bad...of course fighting is normal in relationships...but Breaking promises is a huge thing and that should already let you know you cannot trust him. I say you just leave him. Because you so not deserve to be treated that way by anyone! And trust me you will find a way better man who will tramway you better than that! So move on before the fights turn physical and he can hurt you even more, and worst yet, take your life. So break up with him and move on! You deserve a relationship way better than this!

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He's done, by the sounds of it.

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Baby their is somebody else. I just went through a relationship just like that and boyfriend was telling me the same thing and come to find out my boyfriend was messing with this girl dat work with me the whole time. We were best friends at first i could talk to him about anything until he started messing with her and after i caught them together he told me the whole story about them.

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