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How can I reassure a shy girl that she isn't going to be judged and safe with me?

'I've recently began using a dating site ( Don't mock me over this, I have my reasons)
I recently came upon a wonderful woman whom I have a lot in common. Sadly, this includes depression and shyness.

She's able to talk to me, but I feel as though she's judging herself for every message she sends me. She'll generally only respond with a supportive conversation if I initiate it and she believes I won't judge her for her answer.

My question is, how can I make her feel that I won't judge her based off her messages and that she shouldn't be afraid?

I truly adore this woman and feel that we would have a very promising relationship if she'd allowed me within her "Closed Bubble."

I can't meet up with her until I gain her trust, sadly she lives 240 miles from me; however, I am truly willing to make the drive

I've opened up to her and have talked to her about my own flaws, she responds saying things on the line of "I'm pretty much the same" or when I opened up to her about how I disliked my appearance up until a month ago she responded "Don't worry, I don't find you revolting at all!" I used the term revolting first.

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Tell her just that; it'll show her that you are open and honest with her.

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FunnyLittleFrog

Dedicate a song to her, such as "November Rain". Other than that, give it time and don't give up.

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Tell her that you love her for who she is and that you want her in your life.

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Its a complex thing. If it hadnt been for Jesus, I wouldnt had been able to deal with this situation when it came to me.

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Just be yourself , honest, and admit your faults when need be! Meet her at a mutual public site when she's ready!

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Just keep reassuring her & she'll learn to believe you by your actions. Trust comes with time. Do it until....

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JuggaloPride

Be honest and admire her for who she is.

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Take her out for coffee Relax. Compliment her shoes

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Be honest and take it slow the rest will work it self out

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