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How do i tell my mom that my friends and my friends moms don't really like her?

my mom is bipolar and is really hard to hear the truth. i can say it as nice as i can and she always yells at me. she doesn't get why i don't invite friends over to spend the night. like my friends moms think she is crazy and crap and so do my friends. i don't get along well with my mom well and my friends know that and they think that they can talk bad about her too. my mom is a drug addict which is really hard. i'm 14 and its been hard to deal with but having my friends not like her makes things really even more difficult. i tried to explain it to my dad but he makes things a joke and doesn't always get it.. me and my mom i cant say we are close cause to tell you the truth we are not and i doubt we ever will. she has a lot of issues so that makes things really complicated for me. For a really long time i would rather stay at school then have to go back home and deal with her. she is extremely sensitive and never gets that things are not alway about her. i honestly feel like i am the parent and she is my kid. if anyone has ever dealt with this problem and understands i would really like some advice

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I agree with Kellie40 above. My father was bi-polar when I was your age. First of all, don't tell your Mom that nobody likes her, it's hurtful and will accomplish nothing. Next, you need to be more supportive of her and stop being ashamed or embarrassed by her. You're old enough to take an active role in your family. Family counseling would be helpful. You can get free counseling at many churches, even if you're not a member of the congregation. Get on the phone and call your local churches. You can make a real difference in your Mom's life! And good luck, Sweetheart.

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I'm bipolar(along with about five other mental disorders) I'm also a drug addict but I've been clean for almost eleven years. unless your mom gets on the right meds and gets clean, there really is no way to tell her. Sorry just being real about it. The best thing you can do is stop your friends from talking about her and YOU need to research bipolar, its like being two people at the same time. hope I helped. God bless you honey. good luck.

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i can tell the whole two people a once thing i have for a long time.
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What would you gain by telling her?

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i dont think you should tell her...

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Your mom is not choosing what she has, it is what it is, if you love her then stand by her like you would if she had any other medical issue she wouldn't choose. Family is your place to go when the rest of the world gets you down. I know that if you came across something you couldn't deal with your family would be there for you. Try to be more tolerant, I suspect mom might embarrass you a bit and that affects your position with your friends, but I would honestly tell your friends that she's your mom no matter what and you feel worse when they say bad things about her that don't need them to remind you of. Tell them you would rather not discuss your mother and could you talk about something else.

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