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Can another atheist(or some one who's been through a similar situation) help me with this?

No one in my family knows I'm atheist. I really want to tell them, but I don't know how. I feel like two people in my family would support me, two would preach to me, and one would disown me(that guy doesn't really matter though, considering I don't like him to begin with). I've been atheist for over a year now, but have only told a few of my friends. Any advice?

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Be honest. Since it will come out eventually (you can't deny who you are forever), they would likely be more hurt that you kept it from them than anything.

Sit them down, tell them honestly that you are an atheist and that you will still respect their beliefs and you hope they will respect yours. If they cannot, you might simply have to cut ties with them for a while. Family or no, no one has the right to preach at you. I lost a couple family members when I "came out" as an atheist and my father still occasionally gets on me, but I'm far happier being able to be myself.

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Reasonable.
Faith is a gift from God, it is not from ourselves. Not everyone has that gift. I do not blame someone for not having the gift; if family can love you in spite of being a different faith, that is likely true love.
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Regardless of one's belief system, the truth has a way of revealing itself. Whether spoken aloud and shared or kept within.

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Just tell them...the atheist is not an outcast or below any other human. It's not a bad thing.

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Just tell them and if they are loving, they will accept you for who you are.

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You can tell them.
I'm sure everyone will accept your decision.

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I sort of don't get why they would judge you for that, but tell one of the people who would accept you first, one who you trust. And since they know your family, maybe they can help you.

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Yeah there is nothing wrong with just strait forward telling them. They might be surprised for a little bit, but they will get over it.

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If you feel they need to know, or that you owe it to them to tell them, then do so. If they "preach to you" about their beliefs, preach back to them about yours. I don't usually advise preaching but if they can dish it out, they should be able to take it. Turn about is fair play. You probably won't change them, but you may convince them that you really believe what you say. Of course, if they leave you in peace with your beliefs, leave them in peace with theirs.

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I am Catholic. My daughter told me she is an atheist. I said, well alrighty then.

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Smart daughter you have there.
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Why would you need to tell them anyway? Doesn't matter unless they're forcing religion on you or trying to get you to go to church. It's your business not theirs. If it comes out be honest and they should accept you. Unless they're close minded asses.

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It really depends if your parents/family is religious and how religious? Some will be happy you told them, other will be very upset, to the point of disowning a child. I suggest you ask to have a talk with your parents (or whichever parent you are closer to) and have a friendly conversation. Do not try to persuade to them that their religion is wrong. I suggest saying something along the lines of "I respect your beliefs, but I've changed and no longer believe in Christianity (or whatever religion) and God. I hope you're able to accept me as an atheist". Good luck.

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Become well versed in your views, know where you stand. Confide in those who would support you regardless of what belief you choose. It shouldn't matter. You may face criticism, or even interrogation, but no one can dictate to you what you have to believe.

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Just tell them that you love them but you have chosen another path. Try not to let any anger get in the way. A soft word turns away wrath.

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I don't think you have to tell them, but like me, you should wear it at least. Wear atheism like its a stylish coat and if anyone asks you just be honest and don't concern your self with back lash. Whatever you do don't suppress who you are if you can avoid it safely. Be you no matter what others think because when we all die you will want to be happy you never changed yourself for someone else. Show them that no one has the right to make you into anything you don't want to be.

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I'm atheist, but growing up and long into adulthood my mother and I were the religious ones of the family.
There is a common misconception among religious folk that people become atheist because they want to live a sinful life of debauchery.
Let people know that you still value being the best person you can be but honesty with yourself doesn't allow you to believe in a god.
My mother and I are still on the best of terms and visit on the phone quite frequently.

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That's good. Was she shocked when you told her?
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I wouldn't call it shocked but I could sense the dissapointment.
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Star back. We may differ but I always value your comments.
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Thanks, that means a lot.
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I would want my childrent to tell me. And, I will always love them whatever their decision. God is that way with us. :) Peace to you.

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I am not atheist but I say just say what you need to if they don't accept you then just ignore it and move on or try to hear them out and explain the reasons you are atheist

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You have gotten a lot of good advice here: be yourself, trust your family to love you, etc. I suggest you tell them you have not received the faith to believe, and you are happy as a skeptic. They may keep trying to make sense to you, but you have no obligation to see if their way. However, try to be as charitable as you can, they mean well and have your best at heart.

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That's a great perspective for a star.
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Your own is equally temperate.
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What might happen when you tell them, is that they will start disagreeing with everything you say, even when it has nothing to do with faith. It's a frustrating situation, and can be particularly annoying at family get-togethers, when the religious nuts of the family start their attacks at you, but you need to push through it. People are usually good at adapting to situations, if given a little time. A lot of us have been through this family acceptance-process, and I wont lie; it was not fun, but you will feel a lot better with yourself when done. Best of luck.

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