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My best friend past away 7 months ago and i miss him and i can't cry, what is wrong with me, i mean is it bad, is it wrong?

my best friend was the one i could talk to, the one i can trust, now he's gone and i feel an empty space in my chest, please understand that i am not asking for attintion, i am asking for help. i mean there are tears but they won't fall, every one says that if i cry i will feel better bu i can't. do i sound like a horrible person

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You don't have to cry. It's normal to cry, and not to cry.
It probably means you're moving past most of the pain.
Don't worry, it's a good sign.

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Just means you're getting past the hurt

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it still hurts though
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Worry about being a bad person when you don't hurt anymore
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RedRose
or dont....moving on isnt wrong, its healthy
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Whatever makes ya feel better
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Don't worry about not having tears. Some people can't cry until later...after something tragic. It's not bad, it's just being human.

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No. everyone expresses themselves differently (or doesn't as the case may be). You don't have to cry and it's ok not to. You don't have to feel better either. You just grieve, the way nature intended.

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It's ok not to cry. You can be sad, mad, or happy with or without crying.

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It's ok not to cry .you just miss him.

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yeah i really miss him
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Just because your not crying doesn't mean your not sad it means your good at hiding your emotions. I'm sorry for your loss :(

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I'm so sorry for your loss. You NOT a horrible person. I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. i lost my grandma i felt so helpless. But i have comfort that I'm going to see her again in paradise and you'll see your friend too. Jehovah well resurrect the died and you'll be able to talk to your friend and see you friend again and be able to hug your friend too. Here is a comforting scripture Revelation 21:4" And he will wipe out every tear from their eyes,and death will be no more,neither will mourning nor outcry nor pain be anymore.The former things have passed away. I know how you feel it hurt's it's like being stabbed in your heart.And it's not bad to cry...again so sorry about your loss.....

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thank you so much
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Your so welcome
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I'm so sorry to hear this. There's nothing wrong with you, people grieve in different ways. You may cry later on and that is ok too. It's also ok if you never cry. Just keep him close in your heart and you'll be fine.

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okay, thank you
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you don't need to cry, sometimes not crying means you just too sad to cry

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I'm very sorry for your loss. I truly feel your pain. I lost my best friend last year and it was awful. I talked to her on the phone several times a day and then one day it just stopped.....My heart was so broken I my I could hardly breathe and I never cried. I still haven't. I think it hurts too much. I know I love her and miss but now I try to think about good times. You still at this time can't fathom being where I am now. I won't say I'm at peace but will say I bc of my Faith I know for certain I will see her again and we will laugh and be silly once again. Until that that time u just send my love and a Kiss to her.

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First of all, im so sorry for your loss. It is obvious that you are still in pain, just because there are no tears does not mean youre a bad person-not at all. You may just be numb, or shocked. it could be that your body hasnt caught up yet or its just not reacting the way you would expect. Thats okay. And when the pain does begin to go away a little, or at least not be quite as strong, thats okay too. you should only mourn for so long. Being okay doesnt make you a bad person.

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