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I love a boy who is my far relative but he is less educated than me and middle class

my dad expectations are more and he does'nt like their family how do i convince my dad ?. i love him very much and want to marry soon,my boyfriend has already convinced his parents and we are at right age to get married he is 26 and i m 25,i tried talking to my dad many times about this but when he comes in front of me i m scared as he is strict.plz help???

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If you are 25 years old then you should be old enough to make decisions for yourself. You do not need your fathers permission to fall in love with someone or be told you cant love someone.
I seem to understand that you are bit of a traditionalist and that you see yourself as property of your father until you marry, and then you will be the property of your husband right? Not another human being.... but actual property. Meaning you will also take your husbands name which means that the transfer of ownership will be complete. If this is the case then I suppose you will have to do whatever your owner says.

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OMG >.< sir u just explained most arab girls life stories..not that this girl is Arab
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It isnt just Arab. It is customary in the US for a woman to take a mans name when they get married. It is more than tradition.... it is a transfer of ownership. NO other reason for a woman to give up her own identity and name.... To do so indicates that she is was once property of her father and is now property of her husband. Not an individual.... just property.
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Words of wisdom right here ;(
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Your 25 who cares what your dad says, go be happy with him. :)

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Maybe talk to ur mom or a relative that ur dad will take seriously and not afraid of him. And have that person talk to ur dad. Maybe one of ur dads friends? Someone he can't say no to:) GL.

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i dont have mom she passed away
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I'm sorry.. Maybe this is the reason u feel weak infront of him
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If i tell him anything he might get hurted and feel lonely.But i want to convince him some how my bf has lot of trust on me i cant even think of dumping him.
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Follow ur heart :)
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C'mon, if you are 25, take control of your life, just say butt out dad and live your life.

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You need to stand up to him and tell him but also be respectful try to negotiate with him

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Is your dad going to tell you what to do after your married too

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Nothing is impossible. You have to take into account many aspects of your life. Can you sustain your life after you get married? Why does your father show his dislike? Everything has its own root and cause. Try to look into it, and may be you will find something. Do not simply go something just because you like... Sometimes the one who is trapped inside the situation is not clear about what is happening.

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I guess you're from a different culture than mine. I think you need to respectfully tell your dad this is what you are going to do. Be ready to move out when you do though. He may come around after he cools off, I don't know. It's a risk.

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You should have told us what nationality you are or religion. That's the only 2 things I can think of that may require permission from father and the fact you said the boy was just middle class.

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