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my husband gets mad at me for no reason. He says one thing and does another and I don't say anything like I just walk into the room and he gets mad at me blaming me for stuff. Like tonight I asked for a kiss and he was like okay and he gave me one and then I try to tell him about my day and he all the sudden gets mad at me and I did nothing wrong. All I do is work my a** off for him and he don't understand the stress I am under, including the stress of dealing with his controlling and manipulative mom (which is a whole story in itself.) He got mad at me for an accident and accused me of doing it on purpose. What happened was I put the computer on the bed and it is dark in the room so I can not see anything and I didn't know his foot was where I put the computer and he said I did it on purpose which I didn't. it was a total accident. I tried talking to him like an adult and all he wanted to do is yell at me. He says its all my fault and I caused him to be upset and all I asked for was a kiss and he was fine with that. then he flipped out on me like I did something wrong when I started talking to him about my day and I don't know what I did wrong. HELP!!

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dham11, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. From what I've read it sounds like your husband has issues and instead of addressing those issues, he's blaming them on you. I would suggest counseling, but from the sounds of it, even suggesting that is going to get you yelled at. I know people say, when you're married you can't take a break, but that's complete rubbish. Maybe it's time to stay with a friend for a little while. Tell your husband, he needs to get his act together, or this "space" is going to end with a divorce. Maybe that will open his eyes to how he treats you. You HAVE to do something thou. Talk to some of your close friends about it, make sure "if" anything were to happen, you'd have a place to go. Good luck sweetie.

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Hi CJ, I know that you had a long week, I hope you're having a pleasant night :)
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Have a good one CJ, I'll try to catch up with you tomorrow night.
Good night!
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Sorry T, Good night back.
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If I were you, I would get a divorce.

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Same. I would divorce.
I couldn't and wouldn't put up with any of that.

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Hi!
What I would do is try to talk to him about your situation. Tell him exactly how you feel and how he can help you. If he doesn't listen, then maybe look into counseling or maybe even a divorce. But try to talk to him.
Hope this helps and good luck(:

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Divorce!

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