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please help, there is a girl I like and I need more help and some feedback?

I'm 14 years old in the 8th grade and earlier this school year I had my classes changed and there i was this girl in one of my new classes. We first got to talking and it was just being friends type of stuff but as time went on friends went from thinking she was sweet, to really cute, and then I started liking her. I asked for her number and she gave it to me. we texted over winter break a couple of times but not much.... When I got back from break this friend of mine told me that she thought of me as a kid that follows around and is lame, so I deleted her number in anger and ignored her for about a mouth. during that mouth she would try to talk to me but I ignored her. after that mouth I told myself I was going to act more like myself around her, and she seemed to like that and we talked more in class and I actually made up a lie tht my phone deleted her number for some freak reason and she put her number back in my phone with like 5 hearts... We would talk every day I class and Valentines day was a couple weeks away and I remember her talking about her ex and how she never got her nike elite socks and I thought it was funny but at the same time I wanted to surprise her with them for valentines day and that week end I walked 3 miles to the mall and back to get them and the week of Vday a friend of mine told me that she found out I like her. that whole week I was pretty confused what she thought and how she would feel about it. on Vday I didn't talk to her but she thought something was up in class so instead of talking to me about it she wanted it to be private so she texted everything and she told me how she knew and I gave her the socks and she gave me a big hug and told me she loved them and that night after school we texted for a couple of hours and I told her about everything. I told her every feeling I had for her and everything and she told me how sweet I was and that she didn't know I was so chill about liking her and the next day we talked on the phone for about 3 hours and I asked her how she felt about me and she said she told a fiend but she doesn't know that if what she told her friend is what she feels yet. Yesterday I texted her and she didn't answer and I thought she was ignoring me but idk. During this whole thing she still thinks about her ex a lot and when we talked on the phone she actually asked me if we were to go out how my parents would take it because I've never had a girlfriend before and I'm white and she's Spanish, and when she asked me that I was wondering why she would ask me that... Idk what to do next and I don't want to ask her out yet but I need some feedback and for someone to tell me what they think and what I should do...

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So she did ask you out, right?

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No she asked if we were to go out what would my parents think... I thought I was a strange question for her to ask when she never told me how she felt about me
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She didn't ask me out
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I think when she asked you about her being Spanish and your parents is because she maybe worried about being discriminated
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You should still ask her out
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She's light brown.... She's Dominican and really cute, my mom knows her and my parents wouldn't discriminate, she asked because she thought my parents would think I liked white girls
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Ask her and tell her that you can date anyone
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of a different race
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I told her when we were talking that my parents aren't racist and don't discriminate against anyone
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that is good, now you can ask her, she just wanted to make sure that if she would ask you out, she wouldn't get denied.
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I would say yes in a heart beat but guys usually ask out the girls where I'm from
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Why can't you?
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Why can't I what??
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ask her out, you said all other guys can ask out girls
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I'm going to give it sometime
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Focus on the fact that you like her rather than the fear of denial and then ask her.
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Give it time, make sure she really wants to go out with you and isn't just doing it because people tell her.

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Nice Story.... You Should text her or ask her "Want to go out tonight?" She might say Yes!. Good luck! :-)

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I'm 14 I don't think I'm goin to ask her out to the movies or anything...
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it sounds like that she asked you that cause she may have had trouble in the past with guy and her skin tone and as for her thinking about her ex we are girls we always think about our past but when some one sweet is in our present we think less about our past so give her some time to see how great you are and she will be yours

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Her ex was black and I asked her if she only likes black guys and she said she is mostly attracted to black guys but if a guy is good enough it doesn't matter....
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ok so that's why she asked you that some black parents are not ok when there kids date out there own race but ask your parents how they fill about her
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Follow your heart

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