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I'm trying online dating, and a 35 yr old guy wants to take me out on a date. Is 35 too old? I'm 19.

He's divorced and attractive as well. I'm meeting him in public, but I'm a little skeptical...

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wouldnt it be nicer to cuddle with someone who isnt getting gray hairs?

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lmfao!!!!!!!11
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mrdrcooldude

just dont be stupid, dont do anything crazy, and im pretty sure itll be fine...bc ur not stupid!

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Well thanks :D
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you might not be mature enough for him, yes its too old.

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I would say yes. The difference in your ages is not at big a deal as the difference in expectations. He most likely is looking for a life partner at this point in his life or just wants to bed you. He might be patient about it.... and he would deny it if asked... but I would almost be willing to bet the farm that one of those is his main objective.

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I completely agree.
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If you go on this date, Jackie, be careful. Lots of attractive guys are psychotic too. Ted Bundy was known to be attractive and very charming. Rumor had it though that he ulterior motives.
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I just told him I wasn't interested, and sorry for wasting his time. Thanks so much for the advice, my warning bells were going off!
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ALWAYS listen to your warning bells. They are there for a reason. :)
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Wow, you have a farm?
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Aren't those the two things everyone is after? To wed or bed.
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I suppose so, caluvox but I'm pretty sure this guy was looking for a young naive girl...
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I don't necessarily agree that he's looking for a life partner. Speaking from my own experience, I assume anyone under the age of 25 is not looking to settle down permanently so it's more of a hook up/longterm hook up type situation.

The idea that he might be looking for a naive girl is a little unsettling in my mind.
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I really think he was. He did not ask me a single question about myself, and showed me plenty of pictures of the house he built. These men don't realize I'm a smart cookie.
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I think the benefit of online dating is that you get to know the brain before you met the body. People should spend a good deal of time exchanging information on various topics, views, opinions, aspirations, etc. You should already be strongly attracted to the person, and only after that should a date occur
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He never asked questions about you...sounds selfish and not really interested in you as a person. But look at all the stuff I have...now have sex with me. I hope he at least as a personal jet. =]

But it definitely sounded like you would be wasting your time. You have chosen wisely by declining. Also, you can tell a lot about a guy by the way he handles rejection.
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Good idea, caluvox!
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Yes yes. He said "Ok"
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Just remember Jackie online dating isn't always the safest thing make sure he's not a axe murderer do a background check just for your sack. You should question him after all you are meeting him to get to know him just don't ask him to much that could hurt him he might have his guard up he has been hurt before. Also be upfront with him and just be yourself good luck (:

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Thanks :)
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You bet good luck be yourself seriously be yourself if he doesn't like you for you that's his loss. Don't let him fall into love with something or someone that's not there .
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Meeting in public is generally fine. You might want to have someone call you about 40 minutes in to tell you that your cousin is in the hospital if you need an out or to just check up on you.

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Hahaha thanks...
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The meeting in public and having a person you will calling in an hour, 2 hours, whatever time to say you're ok is generally the two big safety things. But if safety is a big concern, probably shouldn't meet them anyway.

And there's nothing wrong with an older guy hooking up with a younger woman if that's what they both want to do! hrmph
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Lol yes, if he's nice!
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Damn! Good thing that nice thing isn't a requirement for everyone. =P
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Make sure you have a knife and some pepper spray with you. (And mods, if you delete that, then that's wrong because I'm telling her to protect herself.) Tell him that you just want to be sure and it's nothing offensive. And why in the world are you...? Never mind, Jackie, just don't worry about that. Just take all safety precautions that you have to and be sure you come back in one piece. I guess that's it, then...

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I decided not to! Thanks though :D
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Oh. Okay.
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But I will take pepperspray and a knife in the future!
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It's technically legal, but it is a little too old. Like PassageOne said, carry some pepper spray or something to protect yourself, old guys dating young girls always sounds sketchy.

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If dating strangers...pair up with a couple you know. That way you are not alone. That is a very big age gap in my opinion. Some people mature faster then others but with age come some issues. Just a thought.

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Nooooo don't do it it can be dangerous !

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Why do I only see trouble ahead for you if you continue down this road.

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I decided not to go on a date with him
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I can't believe your having trouble finding a date your very pretty. To bad I'm not 20. Good luck stick to your gut feelings.

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Thanks, though I'm not having trouble :)
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I wouldn't think so.
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Ugh... He's almost 40 Jackie!! I'm gonna say date someone your own age.... I think it's good to date in the no more than 5 years older range. ;o

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Thanks, I ended up telling him no. I agree!
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I think when you are about 20, you should go in the 5-6 year range. But you deserve the best.

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Thanks, I decided not to :)
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Although if was Tom Hiddleston...... Hes so hot! lol.
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like you would even do that! D: that guy is like old enough to be your father! - like seriously, its like dating a teacher at school - completely screwed up : / - thats just my opinion, but yeah i wouldn't go at all. . .

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Thanks, I didn't :)
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no worries :) and good
you just never know these days :P
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Yes! Stick to an age limit!

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