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What do i do if someone is bullying me and i stand up for myself and that makes the situation worse

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Bullies have been around forever! Understand what you're dealing with.
There are several reasons why bullies bully. Most are based upon their need for power and stature within the peer group. Bullies are looking to be the "alpha male/female." The group may be the class in whole, or the anti-social friends with whom they can more easily relate.
They choose victims who will have basic manners and not want to "play" or for any number of reasons be "submissive" in their eyes.
They do this in the public, because they need witnesses. Their buddies will snicker. They will assume that the others who don't call them up on it is tacit approval.
Even though most believe it is wrong, few will intervene. Just as you may feel hesitant to go to an adult to preserve your own tenuous status, the kids around you won't step up either.
The peer group is key! The rewards must be removed. The only way you will accomplish that is to rally your resources.
Tell. Not necessarily publicly. No one need know. Go to a trusted teacher, administrator, counselor, etc. Have them empower the peer group. (They'll quietly let the specific teachers know to watch your back.)
Good luck to you.

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Say "I wish I felt sorry for you."

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how wil that help me and what do i do after that
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Turn to them, say it, keep walking. This can make them feel bad about themselves. You can also point out something imperfect about them or something that will make them mad like "I wish I felt sorry for you, you're a wimp." But it would make them anger and more aggressive.
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Before the situations happens or begins tell a teacher do it right after the situation because they could make fun if you for running and telling on them just before it happens again go tell a responsible teacher, parent , counselor, or even family member tell them you need help and that you chose them to help you

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Hang in there.
Is it a group of kids or one main bully bullying you?
I would say go to an adult, but that's what everyone says. Going to an adult can get you labeled a wimp or whatever by the bullies. You most likely want to solve this problem yourself. That's probably what everyone wants.
Most people will tell you to ignore them. But that's pretty much impossible for everyone.
First, how are they trying to bully you? Physically, or emotionally? Calling you names or picking on you?

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actually its a whole bunch of different kids eho dont even know each other that go to my school so i would say i get bullied about 6 times a day
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What way do you think would be most effective to ward them off?
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maybe to make them argue with each other while i slipp away
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Probably. Bullies, or people who are you know, mean or whatever tend to fight amongst each other often.
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I d say do something to make them uncomfurtable bullying you. The Bible says the soft answer stops the anger. And if someone slaps you, give the other cheek. Also says give yourself to be whipped (metaforicly, not literal) but you can talk to him or she or them about God. Tell them Jesus loves them and show love and care for them. It may take some time, but it works. Gby

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