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Is it abnormal to plan to have a child before marriage?

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I hope not, or I am abnormal....

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No, not at all

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at this age of time anything is abnormal. Just do you and don't worry what others think.

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Yes, it is abnormal.

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It's not what most people do. But if it makes you happy go for it.

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Depends how old you are and you're relationship. Are you 14 and dated the guy for 3 days? Or are you mid 20's to 30's and with the same guy for several years?

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boondox4l

Nope not in my opinion

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JuggaloPride
Where've you been? Hadn't seen ya lately.
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boondox4l
sorry I've been out
now I'm leaving again
but ill be on tomorrow for a LONG time but around like 6
WHOOP WHOOP and keep it WICKED
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no it's just a different prefrence some people don't see marriage as that important I mean its only a peice of paper right? In some ways you will have a stronger bond with your boyfriend/girlfriend if you do have a child so nahh it's not abnormal

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Yes

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One believes so, because of seeing the ramifications of poor planning has on the parents and children due to: Usually,lower education, poor finances (job wise/insurance), emotional/psychological stress, relationship issues, health issues/or lack there of to adequately address both for the child and parent. Life is precious, treat it as such. Yours and the ones you love or hope to bring forth into the world.

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JuggaloPride

Go for it. There's nothing wrong about it.

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Absolutely not, it's great that you think about it now so when you are married and ready to have one you'll have an idea of what you want and how you want it.

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No

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kazarina

It depends if you are in a healthy stable relationship & bringing a baby into it is what you both are sure you want. Your age is relevant as after 30 or so your fertility decreases & once in your 40's there are other health risks for you & the baby. It would be a good idea to make an appointment with your doctor & let him tell the both of you what you need to know about pregnancy relating to you both.
If you are single & younger, I would continue planning to plan but hold off if your body time clock allows you that option. Motherhood is hard when you have the role of both mother & father to do alone. That's without the financial side even entering into the equation. All I can say is consider all factors & options before deciding. Goodluck.

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nope, i have been

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no it happens plenty but it is easier to raise one with somebody else

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