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Why do I feel so depressed?

I've had a rough childhood, traumatic events and moving around a lot. I feel like its the reason why I am so sensitive and paranoid to this day. I feel like no one understands me or why I am the way I am. no one knows how to provide me comfort . I am happy with some aspects of my life, but emotionally most of the times I'm not happy. could my childhood contribute to this? I also just had a baby almost six months ago.

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Depression can be situational or chemical. Sounds like you might have a combination of them from your childhood (situational) and the birth of your child (chemical.) Go talk to a counselor, talking about it will help you understand what happened, which makes it easier to deal with; and the counselor can recommend some anti-depression medication--doesn't completely cure it for me, but it gives me a level playing field to start from instead of big, black hole.

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Yes. It could. But remember one thing. Life will not stop for u. So stay with life.

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Yes your childhood can contribute to depression. Have you considered therapy to work through the traumas? No reason to continue feeling this way when there is help available.

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I have thought about it, but for some reason I never went through with it.
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What you need is some deep philosophy. Talk to a philologist (is that what they're called?)

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Everyone goes through hard times. Everyone has problems & everyone at some point feels lost and alone & everything but happy. Honestly, I truly believe happiness is a state of mind. You have to allow yourself to be happy. If can't allow yourself to be happy you're just going to convince yourself happiness isn't out there & it is. You need to surround yourself with positive vibes. Let yourself be happy. Let go of everything that makes you feel bad. Smile more often. You have no idea how great it feels to smile and have nothing to worry about.

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u really gave good idea & definition of life events that are infact part of human life & one should not sit , if he/she has worries , he/she should see forth & search light and one day he/she will get desires & wishes. this is life style, we must think about it, how can we overcome our gaps.
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My gaps are wide, and believe me I try to fill those gaps. But how can I do that without the proper support? How can I do that when people are so quick to judge and throw me down ?
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One day. You will truly realize that nobody else's opinion matters. Because in the end who is going to be there for you? Who is going to be the one to assure you everything is going to be okay? Nobody, nobody but yourself! Make decisions that are going to make you happy, not others.
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thats how i feel too . :/

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Just forget about the past and concentrate on the future of your child.And if you go in that flashback again just ignore that and start doing something you love which will not let you go back to those bad times.Just enjoy life and i think you will have problems taking decisions about your child so don't do that directly ask for suggestions from your husband,parents and close friends friends. :)

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My husband isn't that supportive about my emotional state. He thinks I'm just a pain in the ass, that I cry a lot, that I get upset over little things... He had a great childhood, he was spoiled and got to go out all the time. I have told him about my childhood, but I guess it doesn't touch him one bit because he doesn't understand me or know how to comfort me. He is quick to upset me even more and make me feel bad about myself.... :(
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Oops.This situation is more severe than i thought you need some great support to recover from this situation and i think a psychiatrist is the one who can help.
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Looks like that is my last resort to try....
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Even situational depression is chemical in nature. A good combination of therapy and medication could be useful. (Do NOT breast feed if you are taking any medication.) The medication does not have to be permanent and can be valuable in lifting a depression enough to let you discuss your problems in therapy.

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Yes, a traumatic childhood will catch up with you sooner or later. I'm dealing with the same issue. You can't just ignore this, you have to confront those issues in order to move forward. Try meditating and seek a therapist but make sure you make it loud and clear to the therapist you are not interested in taking medication. Do you think this may be post pardon depression due to you recently having a child? Do you have a great support group?

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You need to give yourself permission to feel this way. Grieve, cry, scream out. Then, realize only you (for me it would be with God) can find the solutions. Do what needs to be done to feel ok, with who you are, how you've turned out, if your not happy with who you are, find the solution to that too & fix it.
Be a Mr Fixit.

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Cymbalta helps

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