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Why are there so many women dating losers or just getting out of a relationship with one ?

every woman I would even bother asking out is so messed up. when I think some girl is interested she's not. I think wow she is talking to me then out comes her baggage. they either tell me about some loser they dated or some other problems. women give me their numbers at the drop of a hat without me even asking. girls flake out me so often when I think they really want to go out too. I pretty much don't say a word anymore to women. why does it seem like the older I get the more baggage each woman has ?

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women are instilled from birth that some knight in shinning armor or some guy like Ken will be their dream man. Most of these sort of fellows are self centered/important, egomaniacs, who think they are gods gift to women. Women aren't brought up to think that a nice guy is someone who treats them as equals or fair descent manner.
So gods gift to woman treats them like trash cheats on them, they have babies with them and are deeply emotionally scared and left to their own devices.
Society teaches them from a young age that the exciting wild rich guy is going to be more prolific than the hard working shy plan ahead/safe guy.

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You are soooo right!
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Every women has a different personality and experience with men some may like losers some may like me no one knows but all men have something different that a woman likes.

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The older we get, the more baggage we have from our past. Some of us know to deal with it, forget it, or at least stop thinking about it so much, and move on. I am 71 yrs old, a widower after 30 yrs of marriage, and don't look back......look at today and forward.
Keep trying to meet someone, and you will eventually find them. It also helps "where" you are looking. Church is a good place. Bars aren't so hot, cause they are full of women and men who drink a lot, on the average. I do wish you the best, and good luck.

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You don't know how those "losers" treat them. Some could be sweet to them, others could be a$$holes, but all women like different things. It may be physical attraction or they have something other guys don't have.

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im dating a 10th grader his name and my name is the user name and his name is Jason is 16 years old and im 15 years old but hes gothic and he is not a loser and some boys aren't losers

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no goth kids arnt losers they dont deserve that much respect.
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oh my boyfriend is kind like me now i believe
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It's not fun to be perfect is it? Have you dated or had a relationship at all? if you have.,Your the same baggage to some women that your asking about. People generally have many relationships before they settle down. It's human nature I suppose to talk negatively about ones ex's. it's all in how you deal with or view things

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We accept the love we think we deserve, my dear...

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Just gonna throw this generalization out there:
Bars and clubs (and other 'singles' spots) are the worst places to meet people. Every baggage-laden woman I have ever met was in a bar or at a Singles Night event.
That being said, I think that women may dump their baggage on you to see how you handle it and to let you know up front that they've been hurt before and are looking for someone trustworthy.
But I still say that bars and clubs are lousy places to meet people.

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I'm inclined to agree with you
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We have this hard-wired need to find a "bad boy" and fix him. They believe they can make him a better person and this usually does not work out. Don't worry, these girls (they are girls, not women yet) will realize one day that they need to find a nice guy who doesn't need to be fixed and will treat them right.

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That's life and every one. Maybe they see you as a great guy but back away because they think you are to good for them. Most woman and men will not talk about their past or ex's etc. unless you ask or they trust you. My advice is be careful on what you ask and look for in a woman. Some are open others are not. Also depending on the person and how bad they were hurt makes a diffrence on how much they carry around with them. It's hard for a woman...just as it is for any man. We just tend to open up more. Also its hard in any relationship to break the cycle of dating losers. It all comes down to confidence. Just my opinion.

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There are Alot of loosers, so to speak. A person, man or woman cannot go through this life without some type of baggage or issues, so if you are looking for perfection, sadly you will probably be alone a long time!

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Not looking for perfection. Not even close. Just would like someone I am attracted to that won't have me needing a shrink. I am 37 years old and don't want to settle or be single the rest of my life.
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Most of them are impatient and don't wait for quality guys.

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that is true
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many women just make very bad choices.

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