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How do you control anger?

One of my best friends commited suicide 1 month or so ago. I've been sad/angry and I've been cussing and listening to bad music. Whenever someone gets in my way, I get angry. I have beaten someone before, I throw things, and get SUPER ANGRY! I've seen doctors, but I can't control it. What do I do?

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Walk away from your problem, and then discuss it later calmly with the person that made you angry and maybe a few others. At the time, just try and think about something else. Like if your friend said something that made you really angry, don't start yelling and shouting go away and talk with someone else, then the next day, when you've calmed down, talk about it slowly and quietly, until you have a sensible solution. Or if they have been saying or doing things upsetting you a lot, maybe just don't go back at all.

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What I did, was that night when my friend ticked me off, I asked to play a round of Call of Duty, and I owned him, that got my anger out... But thanks. Normally, I would just raise my middle finger at him, then go away...
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breathe.....take it a nice whiff of oxygen

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Thanks, and BTW, your really hot!
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Zaoro

Trust yourself and find the right places.

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What the crap does that mean?
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Zaoro
Don't go where your anger goes.
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Punch a wall

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that just leads to violence....and holes in your wall
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Cat, your really hot!
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Zaoro
Punching walls actually leads you to kill also. I will not force myself to punch a wall if it resorts to killing anymore.
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Your just messed up, kid...
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Zaoro
I know that. Don't get evil though dude.
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Ha ha. I won't.
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Ugh I punch my wall so does that mean I'm going to be a killer?
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Lol. No.
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For me it is... you don't know what I've been through anyways.
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You are in the middle of your grieving process and you haven't fully dealt with how your friend's death has affected you. There are so many ways to try to cope with that pain and it sounds like your way is anger. You bottle up emotions to the point of explosion when something small happens. It seems irrational to others and you notice you are changing. You need to talk this out. Get some help with dealing and coping in a healthy way. See if your parents are willing to take you to a grief counselor.

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I have, but thanks.
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Keep calm maybe get a stress ball or talk it out with someone (:

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Um, wth?!
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Zaoro
JUST! Cool yourself.
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Uh...?
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How does that help???
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Zaoro
Maybe listen to some good music or look at nature. Or be alone for awhile if you can. It can work.
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My little brother has really bad anger problems and he usually just excludes himself from the problem until he is calm enough to go back and talk about the problem again.

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I always had to control my anger also.
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But did his best friend kill himself? NO!
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Suicide was his choice. And it is best to avoid making the same mistakes.
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No! I could've helped him, and I hated myself for it. He didn't have to do it!
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Simple "GROW UP" its a CHOICE you and only you make!

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Eat some ice cream, duuuh.

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Agreed.
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Well the best way that I control my anger is I like to go for walk and sometimes I am not afraid to cry and I will when I feel like I need to but just because we cry it doesn't make us a coward or weak. It is okay to cry . Music is also a good way to escape anger. I like to listen to pop rock and counrty along with Christian Rock it makes me feel like I am praying to God as I sing to Him.

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count from 10 to 0 :-)

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Count 10 to 1
Three or four time
This is the best way control your anger
Good luck

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