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How do I find out where a minor lives and if she's even still alive?! Keep reading, hear me out please. (I promise I'm no pedo- I'm 14!!)

ok I'm a 14 yr old boy and I've had this amazing friend who's always been there for me. I really love her! she's the nicest person I've ever met and she's a great friend and I think that makes her beautiful. for instance she had this beautiful long hair, but she shaved her head and donated her hair in honor of kids with cancer. we've been friends since 6th grade but after 6th grade she moved schools, until 8th grade- she came back. but she was having some problems with her family and her boyfriend which made her really depressed. soon she found herself in the hospital for extreme depression and attempted suicide. this broke my heart. I checked up on her every day and made sure she was ok. when she got out she told me that she had feelings for me and she not only loved me as a friend but as something more. I told her I loved her too but I don't know if it would work out. let time decide. because I don't want to loose you as a friend. I felt so bad but eventually it faded away. about a month and a half later she was having the same problems again and was admitted into the children's psych floor again. after she got out she seemed different at school and then eventually she just up and left and said she was moving schools. ever since that happened no one has heard a peep from her. I call and text her phone and I get no answer and it's the same for other people. I look at her Facebook and she hasn't posted a thing since she went to the hospital again. I message her on Facebook and get no answer. later I started having similar problems and then I was admitted to the hospital for severe depression, anxiety, suicidal attempts, and homicidal thoughts. once I got out I realized how much I missed her and I've been trying to get ahold of her ever since. I hate to assume it but it makes me wonder if she killed her self... :'c I can't exactly just look her up on a background check website or on the Internet because she's a minor and they don't make child records public I don't think. and I doubt I could go to some place like the police department or wherever they keep that stuff and ask about her cause again she's a minor so they couldn't share that info. I am begging for someone to help me get back in touch with her! I miss her so much! she was and still is a great friend to me! please help me please please please! I miss her so much.!.</3

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I suggest you the butterfly project for your suicidal thoughts and attempts, it's quite helped me.
And to try and look for her, why don't you try calling her siblings (if she has any) or try contacting her family, friends, etc. (who do still keep in touch with her).
Also, maybe she's just trying to forget everyone in the past and move on...that's a way done people try to recover...she also maybe trying to find herself and her meaning in this world...
I hope I helped...I wish you luck in finding her. and recovery for the both of you <3

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Thankyou</33
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Look her up by her parents names.

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That won't bring up if she's still alive will it?
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Have you had any luck? (Not trying to stalk you or anything, just wanted to know if you had your happy ending yet)

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Haha stalk me or don't stalk me idc. But yeah c: I did
Turns out she was in some kind of special group home with other kids to help her with her breakdowns. She finally got out and I contacted her via Facebook and we continued our friendship and it actually developed into a relationship and we dated (sorta dated cause we never asked each other out but we still acted like a couple) for a few months and then I got grounded and had my phone taken away and all means of communication with her so our "relationship" kinda went away but to this day were STILL pretty much like the best of besties c: I did get a pretty good happy ending cccc:
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Hard to believe this was all just 4 months ago when I posted the comment? seems like a year.
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Glad it ended well for ya kid
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