The only time this would be acceptable is when a man has the exact same feelings for his lover and his secretary. Maybe he felt like he was saving time?
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It will depend on where you are looking at it from. From a guy's point of view, there is nothing wrong with that; to a guy, it is the gesture that counts. From a lady's perspective, this is not acceptable because women need to feel special. On the whole, don't put much thought into it because it won't do you any good.
He should've put ,more thought into your gift. No I don't think it's appropriate. They are two very different relationships and should be treated as such. Why did he get his secretary a valentine's gift anyways?? I'm just sayin...
What's wrong with that? A gift is a gift no matter how big or small. Be grateful for the humbling things in life. Don't dwell on it
someone else and he gives her that 5 carat ring with an explanation of how he got it. You know daing well the gf is not gonna complain about having a 5 carat diamond ring. Maybe I'm wrong but I've heard diamonds are a girls best friend
you should probably ask him about that. =D
Men = convenience
Women = individuality
Total = misunderstandings
Bet there's a lot of women who got nothing from their lover. 3 years and no commitment would probably be a better fight, don't you think?
Not to send you over the edge BUT he probably asked his secretary what would be a good idea for a gift - She probably told him what would be good - Most guys who have Secretaries often ask them these types of things thinking well she's a girl and she would know the perfect gift. NEVER think a guy will respond like a girl. Doesn't happen. If you trust him then let it go.And by the way he actually sounds thoughtful and caring. Be happy
1) Well, one time my son needed emergency surgery, and it was going to fall on Valentine's Day. The doctor gave me 2 days to choose from and I wanted the quickest so I said the next day-then he told his 2 nurses he'd have to take them out for their Valentine Day lunch the next week. So yes, some employers DO get their secretaries or office employees gifts for Valentines.
2) more thought should have been out into it. I don't think he meant anything except he was frying to save time and was getting one gift and then decided to get the same gift for the other person .
3) unfortunately, how are you to know the gift idea was for her (feet hurting ) and then while he was there he thought get you the same thing to save rime OR was it the other way around...gift was for you first, then he threw another one for her to save time.
4) true men don't think that way as this being a big deal, but my husband wouldn't have done it. But my ex husband would have and acted like I was nuts. Notice I said "ex husband".
Had this been an isolated incident I don't think you'd feel so bad,because he always puts you second, add secrecy of the secretaries gift, you might be on to something. Not saying anything is going on with the secretary,but maybe nothing is really going on with you. He sounds selfish, and it has nothing to do with duplicate gifts.
First of all why does he need to get his secretary a valentines gift at all? As importantly, he shows that he's not willing to put much thought into these gifts. I don't know that I'd suspect that he's messing around. I do however think he's showing that he is clearly emotionally LAZY!
Try to explain to your boyfriend getting the same gift as his secretary makes you feeling not so special. I don't understand why a secretary is getting a valentines day gift?!?!?! there is a designated "secretary" day
I would just like to thank everyone that took the time to give me their thoughts.
I will be considering all the information.
