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How do I tell my boyfriend about my self harm?

My boyfriend and I have been going out for over 2 months now, and I want to tell him that I self harm soon because I know he will find out at some point and I don't want to end up making it a year and have him find out and dump me for it, this way if he is going to dump me I can walk away with out being completely broken by giving it more time to fall in complete love. If that makes any sense. I don't know how he will react at all. I've been doing it for a about 3 years now, my best friend knows and I just told my mom a little while ago and she's just completely shut me out. I need a list of things I should include when I tell him, how to start, and when (Like setting). Please if you could help me with this it would be amazing!

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Let him know as soon as possible,I went with a girl for a while before I found the cuts on her and she tried to explain her reasons.I still can't comprehend it,but everybody is different.(I just can't see cutting to relieve pain)Best to tell him,maybe he can help you.

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Ya that's why I want to tell him now. And it helps because it causes almost like a high taking your attention away from the emotional pain, I guess it's just being able to control the pain. It's a coping method that lots of people use.
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Quiet setting with few interruptions. Tell him flat out. Explain to him you are not a stereo type, your not a freak, your still you. If he cares enough, hopefully he will be willing to help you through the difficult times.

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Talk to him about it. That's all you can do. Let him know that it is an addiction and something inside of you feels like that is the only way to cope. If he cares about you he will be concerned but he wouldn't shut you out. If he does, he isn't the guy for you.

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Just sit with him and talk if you have love and trust it will be okay.

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what kind of excitement do you get from cutting yourself. I've always wonder why people cut themselves. If you need a good feeling like a cutting pain, join a sports team or do constant work out that will help your body out instead of wasting blood.

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It's not that simple. I do do some sports, but when you get down enough to want to self harm your so down that you don't want to do anything. People do it because it's like a high, it takes your mind off the emotional pain for a bit, it's the feeling of being able to control the pain you feel. Lots of people do it. It's a coping method.
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Don't tell keep it in as long as possible

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But he will find out at some point, what if he gets mad that I lied
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Quit being emo

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Wow that's helpful. -_- Emo is a style of music and clothing. Not all emos are depressed and self harm just like how not everyone that are depressed and self harm are emo. Stereotypes stereotypes.
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Cyberlink: if you don't have an actual answer to help her, then don't leave a comment. People like you are the reason people like her can never seek help. They are too afraid of being ostracized. Quite a shameful comment!
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:) Thank you!
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Wow... Great answer... Thats like finding a person at the top of a building and whispering, "Don't jump" and he's already on the ground -_-
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Haha or shooting someone in the face and asking them why they're bleeding! Lol
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Well, it's your fault that you got yourself into self harming. And only you can get yourself out of it.
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That has nothing to do with answering my question now does it? -_-
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