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I have a busy schedule. I have art lessons on Tuesdays, tutoring on Wednesdays, and piano on Fridays. I am starting to get into riding horses. I also have homework on top of that. I want to cut my art lessons. She is a nice person, but I don't know how much I am learning. I also like going to the other events more. She doesn't have much money, and when we give her her check she says "I need this, or I'd be bankrupt". I just told my dad that I want to cut it, and he says she needs the check. I don't want to feel guilty.

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Its understandable that you would be feeling guilty. But honestly- its not YOUR fault that your art teacher isn't very good at handling her own money. If she had taught herself how to habndle money along time ago- she wouldn't have landed herself in this predicament- where she is relying on a young persons money week to week.

ALSO... you don't ACTUALLY KNOW if she is even telling the truth! She could be saying it to all of her students (if she has others), to guilt them into staying with her also- even though she isn't that great a teacher.

But again, its not your fault she is not disciplined with money- and it shoudln't be up to you, and your family's hard-earned money to keep her afloat.

You may feel guilty- but you may feel even worse years down the track when you have given her all this money, and learned nothing, plus wasted your time, and for what? Becuase you didn't want to say no? You probably won't be seeing her forever- so why wait to draw the line.
Maybe if you leave- it will be a wake up call to her to go out and earn some real money.

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She's a teacher at a local high school. I will see her when I go there. I don't think she is lying (she was flipping out about how her roommate left). You have a good point though. The problem is my dad sounds guilty.
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Well she certainly should not be telling her students her personal problems. Adults yeah- because they can relate to those things, but she shouldn't be burdening you with things that are going on in her life. She sounds a bit unstable really, because in her head, it would just be alittle rant, but she is not realizing that it actually stays on YOUR mind, and is something that worries you a little.

I just want to let you know though- that a roommate leaving is NOT that big a deal. Yeah, its a bit inconvieient for her right now, but either
a) she will find a new one eventually, or
b) have to move house to a place with cheaper rent.

Its not something that is totally going to destroy her life, it will be over soon enough. Its certainly not something you should let worry you.

Have a little talk with your dad, and if he feels THAT bad about it, ask him if he wants to just keep giving her money without you taking classes- because you have decided you would rather spend your Tuesday doing something else. Otherwise, if he is cool with you just stopping, then thats sorted.

Well your teacher obviously has a job at a school- so she has an income.
There are loans available and avenues available for her to keep afloat during this period, so please don't worry about her too much- she will sort it out.
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Same thing I thought
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eat chocolate

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Yummy !
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just.....stop your not going no where caring for people when out there they dont care about you (most) but if you can afford it just still give her the check it is still a very helpful way to stop feeling guilty but not taking the class anyway

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Well, my dad might retire..
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ah do you get money from tutoring cause if you do you can always help her out with that (if you want to) otherwise just push you feelings aside and dont care easy as pie
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I don't get what you are saying.. I get tutored
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oh i thought you were tutoring people sorry
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No, I am smart enough though. I tutor people at school for extra credit. Besides, my dad doesn't want me to pay.
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oh, well just stop caring go ahead and give her some notice so she can search for a job
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k.. She has a job (art teacher at a local high school)
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tell her to find a new one
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Kinda harsh
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worlds harsh
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very
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Stop going. You should not worry about things like that but rather what you need. Your parents are paying hard earned money for what your interests are. You are luckier than most. Use it for your interests.

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Give her one month notice, explain you are taking up horse riding, but that gives her some time to work on an alternate income source. That's more than fair, and you should have nothing to feel bad about

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She needs the money. Just do a good deed and take the classes. It's not like it hurts you. You really sound mean and spoiled.

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Stop cuz it's wasting your money and time and its her fault for no business.

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