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I can't seem to figure out my relationship. I feel like I'm friends with my girlfriend but we're dating. Can anybody give me some advice?

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Bringonthe...makes some good points. Perhaps it's time to make a move. Something like you would do in the beginning of a relationship or when you want to "take it to the next level". Do things you remember doing and haven't done in a long time. When was the last time you flirted w/her or got goofy or even play wrestled. Idk anything fun and spontaneous is always good.

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how are you California charmness? :P
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Hey you;) what's happening? So good to see you (hear u...oh you know what I mean;)
What's new?
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What's new... Hmm.. The girlfriend is new.. Me going for a vacation to back home is new
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Mmm...girlllfriend ;) well that's good news, congratulations. I'm very happy for you. And going home to meet your parents already...it must be serious, lol?
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Haha.. No. I'm just going for vacation
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Well good for you! So what else is going on? Tell me something. It's the middle of the night here. I'm wide awake.
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So you have any boyfriend fiancee?
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No not the moment.
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oh.. okay.
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good for you! :)
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Haha again. You're a funny dude huh?
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why so? being single is the best thing. If you can find random people to sleep with ;)
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Yes and no, not my style;))
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I know I'm just being a douche. Why do you look so angry in most of your photos?
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I don't know douche maybe cuz I am angry.
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Now I've gotta change it again. Haha
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you didn't have to change it?
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well is that you now?
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Yes that's still me. Do I seem angry here too? I'm not really angry Akil. Im probably more sad than anything.

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Yes I did notice a smile missing in most photos. We will just have to hope things will turn out for good. Im sure they will. Have you considered the interior designing softwares?
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Thanks and yes I've downloaded a floor plan program since we spoke about it. I haven't had the opportunity to use it recently but it's definitely helpful. Thanks for asking;)
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That's a good step forward. :) I wish I could help you.
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I wish u could help me too;).
So when r u leaving for vacation? Does your girlfriend work w you?
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We stopped. There are a couple of problems. So better early than late. I'll be leaving day after tomorrow.
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Oh I'm sorry to hear that. You have a great time on vacation w your family.
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Sure. Why shouldn't I? I might quit my job. Planning to do highers may be in Australia or Canada
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what do you suggest?
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If you mean where do I suggest you move to for work I like Canada, it's beautiful and clean and the people are kind.
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But if you rather not move I believe your kind of work (computer engineer?) is in high demand where ever you live, no?
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you can quit and find something else right where you are too. There is a great big world out there. You should keep your mind open to all options.
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hi aka? no I am a mechanical engineer. But now into instrumentation hence I feel I need to quit. So whats up there in sunny California? its Sunny here too in Kerala :)
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Yes it's still beautiful here in California. Good luck w/whatever u decide todo about your work. I am thinking about going to Florida for my parents 50th wedding anniversary. Are you home from seeing your family?
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yes ofcourse.. I dont have a house here... so I stay with them on vacation... and yes have to plan a few trips with friends.. see places an all that.. Florida is nice :P hope you pack some good bikini
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50th wedding anniversary is a really long run .
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Haha...yes 50 years is a long time, God Bless them. So are your plans for today?
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my plans? not much , didn't pack most of my clothes so might go out to get some.
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So when you will be flying to florida, i think you should go. 50 years is really something
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So true. It's Easter weekend so I'll have to check it out. I really have to go it's been too long since I've seen my family.
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really? how long?
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Too...loonngggg;( I really want to bring kids with, but it's way expensive. I don't know how im gonna pull this off and quick too. Keep your fingers crossed for me k ;)
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Haha.. K.. Fingers crossed for you :)
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I'm going through the Same thing. my girl is treating me as if I was a friend.

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It sucks. First it works out fine than it just turns out awkward.
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I hope my girl and I can make it. havent lost faith in my girl.
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Well spookster10, the only thing you can do is talk to your girlfriend. Don't you want to be friends with her? I mean, part of a relationship is being friends first, right? Anyways, talk to her about it.

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Well yeah we are friends. We known each other for a few years now. We have a lot in common and it'll be one year that we been dating in march.
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friends is good! if you are best friends with your girlfriend, then you are ahead of the game!! friendship is important in the relationship because as a friend you learn about each other. when all you are thinking about as boyfriend and girlfriend, is "hot and heavy" stuff, you are not forming a relationship, you are just "getting it on"

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True but we've known each other for a few years now. We been dating 11 months now. But we do have stuff in common
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Its good to be friends dont rush things. Even if your guys are dating you still want to act like friends. If your close friends your relationship gets better, and if you guys break up you still will be friends

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Get the book The Love Dare. It's real, watch the movie which it based on a true story.

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I had a relationship like that recently and what I figured out was this. That it will eventually start feeling more like your dating after a while, once you two get closer.

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in most cases you start off being a friend right? yes. so it's good to still be friend and lovers. now if some cases if your mate not doing lovers things with you "holding hands, kissing etc" maybe she/he not into you anymore. life is short don't waste your time with him/her if you feel the feelings are not there. I would sit her/him down talk, see where you two stand in the relationship.

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ask her where you guys stand . and if she doesn't understand explain to her how you feel . the key to a relationship is communication

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There's nothing to figure out who wouldn't want to be in a relationship but feel like the two of you are friends that's a really good thing don't think negatively about it.

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6 Keys to a great relationship: friendship, freedom, honesty, trust, understanding, and communication.
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Let me guess.....the "in love" phase has worn off. I think you have just gotten too used to your girlfriend. The (s)3xcitement has pretty much gone .....the novelty of her has worn off. Am I right?

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She still has all the feelings. Well tbh she's pregnant
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Oh boy.
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