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I have a new bf in school, he is sweet, but when were with his friends he is a jerk, like he doesn't know me ... why?

When were alone he's as sweet as could be, but around his friends: he calls me stupid, ugly and he is just plain rude and obnoxious, but when were alone he embraces me and tells me he loves me and he also gives me gifts everyday ... I wish he would stop because I feel like an embarrassment to him, I told his friends we were dating, but they + him just started laughing at me and I heard him say: "Yeah right!"
I am upset, what do I do? Should I tell him it's over and say We are never ever ever GETTING BACK TOGETHER?

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Phlorence_602

You should have a talk with him.
Maybe, he's embarrassed when you're with him.
See his point if view, and then you can decide the next step. Good luck.

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okay thanks I will try
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End it now before it gets worse. He doesn't deserve any girl.

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That eyeball crying purple stuff is freaking me out.
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Lol. I've been thinking about changing it... But I'm not sure to what..
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Maybe a purple teddy bear
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Better?
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Yup :) and cute!
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I would end it..... In front of his friends.

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Good advice BRO
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Really?! You too with all the BRO stuff?
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I might do that, just can't believe he did this to me, I even heard from my friends that he is cheating on me
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Boys are apt to do this when they are not mature enough to handle a girlfriend yet are just mature enough to want one! Tell the boy that you are breaking up with him but will consider going out with him when he reaches the same maturity level you are on. Then return his gifts IN FRONT of his friends. And walk away smiling.

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good idea, thanks!
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no prob.
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If I were you, first I would confront him about it. Get his side if things, tell him how it makes you feel, tell him you will not tolerate it. And if he continues to do it break up with him...in front of his friends so he feels even more embarrassed.

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i agree
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totally agree, I am in school now and I see him next period! and all of his friends are in that class
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well there you go make sure you dont forget cuz you can find way better guys then that
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he is a douche
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It's all about being label popular in high school. He might be embarressed about you. It's not fair to play someone like that manipulating there feelings from one moment I the next. I saw your comment about how his friends say he's cheating. The friends could be lying but I would still say break up with him. It's not right what he's doing, you deserve someone better. Extra points if you embarressed him, eh what can I say revenge is sweet

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thank you and yes revenge is sweet like nectar
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Nectar and honey! :p
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lol indeed ^ . ^
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He shouldn't be playing you like that. The next time you guys are alone have a talk with him and ask him why he acts different around you when he is around his friends and if he keeps doing it he is not worth your time. You deserve to be treated better !

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thank you... I will do that
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i think you should break up with him in front of his friends and you can find someone way better then him just give it time and you will find a great guy that will treat you right.:)

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okay thank you
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your very welcome good luck
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:) hopefully it all goes well.
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what is the worst he can do if he is infront of his friends he will act like he doesnt care come back and tell me after words what happened
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okay ... I will! thanks
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okay good luck with it tho and your welcome
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i just texted him and told him everything and said if he keeps it up were over!
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you should of just ended it to his face
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i know next period I am, I might do it in lunch, IN FRONT OF THE WHOLE SCHOOL!
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there you go
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I did it, he was so embarrassed he left school early, complaining he was sick!
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wow what a jerk well you can find someone so much more better
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his friends are calling him a loser now ...
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wow well look at the bright side you will find a great guy
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yaeh hopefully most of my past relationships have ended brutally! :(
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surry to hear that
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This what I like to call the douche effect. Guys are guys and some are just like that, usually the popular cocky ones. I suggest you ask him about it when you guys hang out. If he says "I don't know what you talking about" give examples and ask him to stop and then the next time he's with his guy friends and your there and he keeps being a douche walk away and don't talk to him, until he changes. If he doesn't come and talk to you about it in a week or so I'd break up with him. How old are you guys anyway?

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I am 17 and he is 18, I thought that he was mature he is one year older then me, can I say I was wrong again?
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He sound like a 12 year old you're the one that sounds like the 18 year old
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well thank you ... I finally broke up with him ... but now I have worse problems
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Like what?
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he keeps texting me, saying I'm sorry and forgive me, he keeps saying take me back I swear I have changed, but I know its just a lie to get me back! -.-
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oohh wow he sounds like a a...o...you dont need that anybody who calls you stupid has no respect for you.....

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st of his ex's stayed with him for about 3-6 months, I don't see how they could stand it. I was warned, but I wanted to give him a fair chance
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you did and he blew it move on his not good for you but its your choice
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I did move on
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you deserve better
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thanks
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That's just guys. We don't know why but we are always meaner around our friends. We insult each other. So if he's a jerk to you, your one of the guys.

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o.O so there is a method to your madness...
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Yes. Exactly. :)
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Slap him

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my sister kicked him in the nuts, does that count? lol
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talk to him tell him how you feel and what can change cuz girl you know im here for you hahahaha to the fact i study guy101 stupid moments and it's happened to me way to much

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Hey do you have cell phone
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yeah
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wanna text?
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im ground from it right now but i'll give it to you if you want
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pleasee :)
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go to my profile and read my bio
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kk done! you're now in my contacts on my phone! :)
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kool
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: ) just tell me when your not grounded kk?
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Talk to him. But if he still dose that break up with him in front of his friends. That would make him look and feel like a douche.

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He just wants to be acting like a jerk maybe talk to him

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talk to him if he has to act different in front of his friends when he's with you than that's a deal breaker

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you should talk to him and tell him how you feel and that if yall are together he should be proud and happy and shouldnt have no problem showing it around his friends thats not right the way he is treating you

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dont let yourself be his secret. its not worth it. if he really loves you he wouldnt care who knew and he sure as hell wouldnt be ashamed of it.

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thanks, thats sweet
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I would confront him, maybe it's him trying to feel cool and making him feel like he's fitting in but in reality, it is only hurting you (or so it seems). Don't break up with him if he doesn't understand that it really is hurting you. But after you've talked to him, if he keeps doing this, break it off.

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Talk to him. And yes, if he's such a just, dump his ass. Then he'll understand your worth.

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