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Do you think it's really possible to fall in love with someone online you've never met? I hear it happens but I cannot understand it.

I hear about it but don't understand how people can fall deeply in love never having met in person. I know I may be old fashion but there is a difference in people writing and in person. Have you heard any success stories?

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You can have feelings for the person *as they present themselves*, but you won't know the real person until you live with them for a few years. Humans are social animals, we need more than just words on a screen. you need all of your senses, you can look at their picture on the screen (if it's really them), you can hear their voice on the phone, but to really be in love you have to feel, smell and taste the other person. You can't do that online.

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Ditto! :P
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I agree completely. I truly do not think I could even feel romantically towards anyone on line to begin with.
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I think it is possible, though I can not see how it happens....

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FunnyLittleFrog
If you don't understand, then you really haven't loved.
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I can see how you can say that, though I disagree seeing as how I love my wife.
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Suzie17
Ya, I just think I'd have to meet them.
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Been there done that. Not a good experience

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Awe, sorry to hear that.
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It turned out ok, but wasn't fun at the end
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i think its falling in love with the idea of falling in love

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Suzie17
I don't know. It seems some do it. I think I'd have to meet in person tho.
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i would have to meet,your online personality is what you want people to see,not the real you
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Suzie17
Yes, that's what I'd feel. You can't EDIT too well in person hahaha!!
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Good point Suzie haha
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Look at that football player....YIKES!!
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I don't only think, I KNOW, from personal experience, more than once.
I probably would've been skeptical, too.

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You never worried they were phony or anything?
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Not at all. These were/are exceptional relationships. Just in the way I got to know them........ absolutely beautiful relationships, deep, overpowering love. Mind you, were exceptional men. I was lucky, I guess.
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That's wonderful CG! Glad things worked out for you.
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Thanks very much.
Well, certain aspects didn't always work out, in the end, anyway.
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I do. Back when I was in highschool, my BFF met her boyfriend on one of those "chat lines". I'm sure you remember what I'm talking about. They talked on the phone for a couple years before they met. Anyways, he came and met her, here it's been about 17 years later and they are still together. I think if both parties really want it, then anything can happen.

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Suzie17
Wow, thats really nice! And no, I don't remember those sites I'm very computer illiterate. The iPhone is my only experience with chats haha!
I suppose it's a different world than when I dated a few centuries ago hahaha!!
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No this was an actual phone chat line. We didn't have computers or even cell phones back then. lol It was a teen chat line. 1-800 number.
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Oh ok, that does sound familiar. I can see that. You'd personalize the person more and lots can be picked up in conversation that you don't get in print.
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That's very true, but I'm sure the relationship would just start off on the computer, it wouldn't stay that way for long before people were trading phone numbers. Maybe that's just me.
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True. Lord knows I have had enough problems with people in person not being what I thought...
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You'd think online would be worse. LOL
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Hahaha!
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FunnyLittleFrog

People fall in love with their minds and hearts. So what is so hard to believe about them falling in love over the internet?

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I don't know. I think it's possible but I don't understand how if you have never really met the person. I personally wouldn't trust someone I met online enough to fall in love. I don't think it's a good idea either. Too many weirdos out there.

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Very true
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i think it is the HIGHT OF STUPIDITY

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Height is not spelled hight. If you're going to call others stupid, perhaps you should learn to spell correctly FIRST.
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spelling mistake is secondary as regards to the contents -
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You called other people "stupid" but you can't spell.
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pl do not try to be over smart -and do not try to educate me -
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Then please don't call other people stupid. Pretty simple.
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Suzie17
I'll bite my tongue here, C, you said it well hahaha!!!
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Let me just say, it wasn't stupid for me, or of me.
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Possible, but danger.

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Yes
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yea
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Anything is possible. Most who meet on the net eventually meet and start dating just like anyone else.

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Suzie17
Ya, but I know some who got married and it went bad! And then that football player. That didn't end well.... I suppose with how you described would be good.
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It's possible, Nowadays the computer isn't a safe place to meet anyone. This is just my opinion.

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You're absoutley right
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"absolutely" ^ haha me kin speel reel gud!
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Suzie17
I would feel I didn't know who I'm really talking with.
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Lol....
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It's dumb to fall in love with someone you've never seen, at lease Skype, oovoo or FaceTime before actually starting to have feelings... You need to be sure that the persn is who you say and actually hang out with the person, get to know them FACE to FACE

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I agree
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And not because of looks. You can tell more face to face.
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Yea me personally I like meeting them face to face because u can see more of their personality in them instead gaurdimg urself behind ur texts
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I believe it's possible to fall in love with someone you met online but no, not true love. I believe it could become true love with work and time spent together but not that there is true love simply over the internet. Sorry to my friends that are involved or believe otherwise and dont forget that for every story of success there are 100 stories of hurt feelings, or worse.

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Suzie17
I agree. I know I'd have to meet first.
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you married?
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Yup. Maybe that's part of why I don't get it. I'm not looking soooo....
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i have a crush on someeone in here but he doesnt know :( so maybe yeah?

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Ooooo, hahaha!! Who? I won't tell anyone haha!
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that's sad .. sometimes people get actually emotionally involve
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Suzie17
It's not sad. You don't know these people.
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why suzie ?
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i wont say im such a coward to say
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Hahaha, aww! Never know unless you try!
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i feel it is infatuation more than love . people start imaging other . so that relation is more imaginative than real and for some time chat, online any one can make him or her a representative in chat but what is reality only those know who live near them and communicate with in different matters of life . i feel practically it can't work but in imagination it can ... :)

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Don't you watch catfish? Lol. No I do not think it'd be possible for me. But maybe others

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Haha, never heard of that show.
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It's a show about people dating through the Internet and there madly in love but usually find out there not who they've been saying they are.
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It is possible for two people to be total virtual strangers and fall in love. But there is no assurance that this person is who they claim to be, and it can be a dangerous game. I wouldn't not trust a stranger online who tells me they want a relationship.

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Ya, me neither.
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They may sound handsome or beautiful and then you meet the 400 pound mate to be... Will you still love them and that great personality ??

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Or the pervert next door, or the serial killer that lives 30 miles away.
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Suzie17
Hahaha!! I'm not really all about looks tho. I like personality most. I just wouldn't trust the internet.
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I would. I am not about looks.
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Thats great craigsman.. That is a great quality
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Well, thank you. I like to think I'm a pretty decent person. :)
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I think it displays a badly distorted understanding of what love is. It's difficult to validate wishful thinking as love. As for success stories, haven't heard as much about any of them as about the predators and scammers who lurk online.

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Suzie17
Yes that's what I'd suspect instantly to be honest. This thing is a playground for creeps.
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I wish there were more ways to awaken the lovelorn to this sad reality.
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I know. I knew someone who wasted 2 years of her life on some idiot. There's many vulnerable women online and a million predators for each of them. It was sad.
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It would definitely be a difficult decision to make, pursuing a romance online. There would be a lot you have to take into consideration; a lot more than you already do when choosing a mate. Not only can the physical characteristics of this individual be completely false, but they could possibly suffer from disorders, a bad temper, or something that might be a deal breaker for you. The Bible tells us that the "secret person of the heart" is what is valuable to God. We can apply this same statement. The person may appear to be one way, but what is in their heart. "Out of the heart's abundance, the mouth speaks," (Matthew 12:34) In order to know what this person's heart is, their actions will reflect it. And in order to see their actions, you must know them outside of the internet, and spend a considerable amount of time with them.

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Exactly
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Apparently it is. Stupid in most cases but apparently possible.
Actually my aunt met her fourth husband on an online dating service. Didnt meet face to face for over a year but did talk on the phone. They did meet eventually though, dated some. Were married over 20 years before he died recently from lung cancer.

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Wow
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Has Internet been going for over 20 years? Time flies. I guess it has.
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50/50

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ohh yea...
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People lie too much online. You never know who you're getting. Face to face and long term dating, and then you're still taking a chance!

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Exactly. I'm a human lie detector in real life haha! Too much hidden and edited on here. I just couldn't trust.
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Smart girl!
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People can make 'connections' online, by sharing ideals, and disclosing deep personal feelings to one another.

Poetry, is a good example of this.

I absolutely love writing poems, and sharing them, online. That is how I 'connect' my thoughts and feelings, with others.


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That's nice! It's good for connecting I suppose you're right. But I still couldn't fall in love unless I met.
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Suzie, I believe you could. It's VERY doable.
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Oh, I think its plausible, to "fall in love" online. I just met a chick online & we are now best friends. & I lov her. :-D

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Oh that's so nice. And she's lucky to have you for a friend too! I get attached and care for people on line but falling in love, I don't think I could.
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I'm good hon thanks!!
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Yes i assume so if you watch the show cat fish but obviously you half to be careful

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Again with catfish hahaha! I've never seen it! Or heard of it until this question. Guess I'm out of touch with the latest shows. Thanks for your response.
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