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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

LADIES - Do you have to feel that "spark" during the first date to see where things may go in a relationship?

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FunnyLittleFrog: 3 months ago

Usually there has to be some reason to see that person again. If two people are just not right for each other, they can tell long before the first date is over.

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

Yes i know that and i usually understand if they dont feel it but ger actions speak differently. After dinner would u offer yourself to go back to his house and be the aggressor for the fooling around done behind closed doors if there was no spark?

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Ez_Super_Mii: 3 months ago

no because first appearances aren't always the best

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

Well if after dinner, you offer him to go back to his house. Wouldnt that be a sign you feel somethin?

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Ez_Super_Mii: 3 months ago

well depends how long I would know him. if I just met him I wouldn't ask, if Ive known him for a while and just decided to date id ask him but not necessarily because I felt something. how long have you known them for?

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

We spoke thru skype and text for 3 weeks, went on our 1st date and she asked to come back to my place. We kissed and messed around touching and foreplay with clothes on. She apologized when she got home for her aggressive behavior.

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

We spoke thru text and Skype every day for 3 weeks before our first date. After dinner i made suggestions and she said how bout we just go to your house. Right there i thought maybe something clicked well for her to wanna do that. After watching a movie, we fooled around and she apologized when she got home for her aggressive behavior. This is why I'm confused and need answers or closure.

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Ez_Super_Mii: 3 months ago

okay so this all happened on your first date... well... look it could mean there's something there, but then again maybe you've heard this expression (my friends use it all the time) they 'hit it and quit it' idk If its appropriate to use and sorry if it hurts your feelings im really bad with social protocol but maybe she can be searching for a fling... just be careful and look for signs

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

She didnt call things off till the next week, she would tell me how she has the best of both worlds with me. The physical and intellectual attraction the day after our date. Then a week late she said things were moving too fast, i offered to slow down and thats when she said the no spark thing. Im not offended by how u worded it, i understand the whole hit n quit. I appreciate your input.

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Ez_Super_Mii: 3 months ago

okay well sometimes humans tend to... how can I word it... they do things by impulse, and well she offered to go to your place so who took the initiative step was her not you, which basically means if things moved fast it was not only because of you. the spark thing... well... something triggered her to "mess around" with you at your place, then again it can be like I had stated earlier out of impulse

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

Would it be too much to give her time and maybe down the road ask her if she wants to meet up for drinks or try again?

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Ez_Super_Mii: 3 months ago

Its really up to you. If no feelings were hurt proceed.

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sheliaharris: 3 months ago via iPhone

I can only speak for myself, but if there's no spark, there's no second date!

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

Would u go home with him and kiss him for hours if there was no spark?

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sheliaharris: 3 months ago via iPhone

Get real! No way Jose!

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kittycatcommunity: 3 months ago | Last edited at 9:26AM on 2/21/2013

Not necessarily....it shouldn't matter....

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

But would you offer to go to his house on the first date and fool around if you felt no connection or spark?

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kittycatcommunity: 3 months ago

Yeah, I need to get to know him...

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

So you would still do those actions even if there was no spark?

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kittycatcommunity: 3 months ago

Yes, even if there is no spark....I mean "sparks" dont matter, well to me it doesnt

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adrien29: 3 months ago

plenty of people will not feel a spark on the first date it can take some time depending on how many bad relationships that person has been in

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chris201: 3 months ago via iPhone

Would it be too much if i gave her time and then maybe down the road ask to go out for drinks or something to try again?

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adrien29: 3 months ago

yes it does not hurt to be her friend until yall get to that point just don't rush anything

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