How to cope with an outside baby during marriage?
Me and hubby was on a rough patch in our marriage and the worst happens, he gets orders alone to korea for a year. While there he grows further apart and after 9 mms of being there, he cheats with another soldier. They slept together a lousy 5 times, no emotions or nothing just sex. They both agreed to be sex partners and she knew he was married, but after 5 times they stop b/c it started to eat on his conscious, but she got pregnant. A month later he came back to the states and how ironic that our marriage was great in these 7 mos so it made it harder for him to tell me. I didnt know anything. Our marriage wasnt that great but still betrayal hurts. Im in therapy now and deep in my heart I feel he messed up really bad. I mean we married young, had affection/comm issues and so its like we never had that strong bond but yet we both want to really work on it for us and our 2 kids. So he has repented and we are working on it. Its hard though. Altho I feel he should atleast do a paternity test first. Im not/wont stop him from having whatever relationship he wants to have with the child. It didnt come from me and sadly I had nothing to do and want nothing to do with that side of him.