1 year ago
Last edited at 2:59PM on 2/21/2013
I'm so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, you can't "fix" a broken heart. It's hard to realize it now, but it will become more tolerable as time passes. If it hasn't been long, you're still in the mind-numbing, raw pain stage. When my sister passed away, I thought I couldn't handle the grief-it was so intense. One thing that helped me was when I found myself upset, I'd focus on a memory about her. So, I'd be in the middle of the "I don't know how I can even live" feelings and force myself to remember a memory-good, sweet, or funny. Soon I was smiling while crying. You'll work through it, but it can get hard. Reach out to family and friends for comfort. Pray, God can comfort when nobody else can. Best wishes.
When my grandfather passed away I relied heavily on a message I learned about Buddhism; "If you do not desire, then you will not hurt." I know he wouldn't want me to be sad, and I know crying won't bring him back or make me feel better, so I refrain from it.
I know sometimes it is still sad, but the best you can do it try to forget their death and instead, remember their life.
Like a lot of people said: Time. Feel free to cry, be angry, be sad and all the feelings that come with it until you come to acceptance. We all died, but there is nothing anyone can say in here that can take the pain away. I'm sorry for your lose.
Love is underestimated my friend and should never be messed with. and if i had my vote id say cry in happiness that they are not in this crazy world where people eat each other and kill each other and somethings even kidnap each other to death. i am truly sorry for your loss that deep inside i mourn that you get better and if you would please live on with acceptance in your heart. trust me ik your pain, my parents died when i was 6 dont worry im in this with you my friend
Only time heals this... & truely there will always be pain, just less as time passes. I am so sorry for your loss. This is what I do: I ask myself how I can live my life so that my loved one would be proud of me. I try hard every day to live in accordance to this. I find happiness. They would not want us to live life being miserable! It's hard, but easier when you want to live the best life in their honor. Best wishes dear.