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Why do SOME people in relationships end up getting mentally abused from their partner?

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The person being abused has low self esteem. If I had a guy just once touch. I would slam him and run like hell. These men are ill and need help. They make you feel like you have no self worth when in reality it is them who have the problem. Mental abuse is just as painful and nasty. Women. Leave relations like that.You all deserve better. Men might tell you, you are not going to amount to anything..they are right.... IF YOU STICK WITH THEM.
Better to be alone than stuck with mental or physical abusers. They are very sick people.

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Because not every relationship is perfect bad things will happen to some people

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only if you let it..
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Someone will always let it
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Because while they may not be a doormat physically, many people decide to be mental doormats, who are walked over far too easily in that regard. Bullies choose the weakest targets who they believe are least likely to actually offer a defense, so it's logical that a bully would seek out said doormat and walk all over it in the form of a mentally or physically abusive and manipulative relationship. Sort of a hard answer to deal with, but it's reality. The people being abused should search for a source of strength, whether it be in the form of teaching themselves to be stronger, or seeking support.

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Well said. :)
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I'm part of those 'SOME'. For me, it's because my ex boyfriend was an idiot. He ignored me a lot and didn't want to text me at all. He said he loved me but didn't mean it. He was my first love and he had ruined me. I thought I'd never love anyone again but I found someone who is my Bestest friend in the world now :)

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I hope it turns out for me like it did for you
I have taken this mental abuse for a LONNNG time. I actually didnt see as mental abuse until recently.
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good for you cupcake!!!!! Too bad women can't see that...
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Thanks you two... @melly16 just pray that you can get through it and have faith that it'll get better because I promise you it will :)
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Only you can make it happen Melly! You are not here to be someone's venting machine. You deserve to be happy AND RESPECTED. Unless this guy goes for help..He is a loser.Don't you go down with him. I care...
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Anger issues, something the spouse did to tick him/her off, or they did something the other did they he/she wheren't supposed to

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because the one who is getting abused don't do shit they just be like i still love them when they getting beating they just run when they really need to take a pot the first time he or she raise that hand close to his or her face and bang em with it

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Bc some people don't know how to treat there partner right an u should get a better partner is is happening to u cause I recommend that he/she isn't the right one he may have a lot of money but if he/she treating u like crap leave him/her cause u deserve better that than hope this answer helped u

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Because you are ignorant about the issue "abuse". Look up the meaning. If it doesn't feel right for you Don't do it. Drop the bum

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people allow themselves to be contolled by someone because the other person says they "love them". people like the feeling of being loved or needed and allow others to treat them badly because they, along with the feeling of love being mutual, like to feel needed. but these kinds of relationships are never good. you will not get what you truly deserve if you are too atached to what you are supposed to let go of.

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We train people how to treat us... we are also learning about ourselves when we date. People repeat what they are used to, ie. parent / child relationship. It takes a whole lot of energy to change that pattern & an open mind, not to mention self respect. Even when you know this, it's difficult!

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The abuser is usually a spoilt brat, who needs to go back to mummy so she can stroke their ego.

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That's all, folks!!!
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funny huh?
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That sounds like a lot of truth right there.
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That's my point. Shay is all about truth. That's why I admire her. I love her to bits.
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yep, I've been there & its exactly what he needed.
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hi ya Punk!!!
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Hey baby, Shay!
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Hi sweet!!!
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My head is much better. I feel kinda human again. Got a appetite, now, whoa!
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Because the abuser is not abusive in the beginning. Knows how to charm and manipulate. But then he starts saying little things that throw you off center... Leaves you questioning. You ignore the red flag because you are in denial, after all he was such a nice guy in the beginning.... And you love him. Blah blah blah. Please read a book called Why Does He Do That, by Lundy Bancroft. Read blogs under Verbal Abuse categories, so many women are in your shoes. It's a terrible injustice. Sorry for your situation, I hope you leave and find happiness again.

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