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Why is it, when someone passes away, that people instead of giving sympathy, say "OMG how'd they die?"

Does anyone else find this rude and offensive?

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RedRose

O.o I've never experienced such a reaction in my life. Ever. And I've been around the aftermath of a lot of death lately. maybe AFTER the initial sympathies, theyll ask. usually because they dont know what else to say. But no ones ever said that as the first thing! I suggest you spend time with more socially adept people. (I have gotten the reaction "Really?" before. i was like no, not really. im just sitting here crying because i thought it would be fun)

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Yeah :/ I know what you mean... I find it very rude... First.. I think they should say..."sorry for your loss" ... Or something like that..

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I've never had that said. That's just down right rude. Most people in Aus are very sympathetic toward a lost loved one.

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Aussies are a caring and empathetic lot. That's why I love being one. And it is so cool we both being Aussies, what are the odds?
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Hey, great Q, I'm gonna find out the stats. I reckon its like 200,000 to 1. I am blessed.
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australis
Hey guys,I can't believe I found fellow Aussies oh how cool is that?yes,we are a caring,sensitive lot and I've never heard any Aussie react like that-ever.Where are you guys from?I'm from Melbourne.
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Hi australis, mate! I'm from Perth.
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Your right. I really hate that and all the bs that goes with people not seeing each other for years and the gossip goes on

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Curiosity of the killed cat

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i guess its another reflex action and yes it is kind of rude but there are some people who gives some sympathy and then ask this question but i dont think thats right either . well its better to just keep your mouth shut you would anyways get to know how that person died once you go to the funeral

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I didn't ask this, someone asked me this. I would never ask someone this.
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lol i never meant that you asked this
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well its better to just keep your mouth shut you would anyways get to know how that person died once you go to the funeral

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RedRose
did you recently lose someone?
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Yes, a girl I was friends with in highschool.
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Im so sorry!
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Thank you Rose. I didn't "know" her as an adult, but it's still the same. Some people are too rude. Thanks for being sweet.
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definitely. and im sorry you have to deal with people that r so thoughtless
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Im the worst guy for this kinds of situations i always say the wrong things thats why i avoid going to funerals

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Another good question . Yes it's so rude but I've been lucky in that area and people don't ask me how someone close to me has died. But, you know? I get that creepy feeling they are just dying to ask so badly. But what does it matter anyway? They're gone and we can't bring them back. They should just acknowledge your loss. The rest is gossip that takes on a life of it's own. Yes I agree with you and I'm so sorry your friend died CJ. :'(

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Thanks Sin. We weren't close as adults, I didn't even know her as an adult actually. But we were really close as highschoolers.
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JuggaloPride

Yes I find that very rude cuz then when they ask that and then when you say " None of your business" or "I don't want to talk about it" they'll agg you on and on until they get what they want.

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It's human curiosity. I don't think they mean to rude. It is just that death sparks some morbid inclination to 'know'. That's what I think, anyhow.

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Cuz they are rude

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