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Is it bad that my boyfriend never gives me space? And gets jealous whenever I speak to other guys?We've been on and off for 3 years.Normal?

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Sounds like you need to be 'OFF' more than on. Get my drift?

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It's controlling and jealous, no that's not normal.

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Not normal. If he can't respect you enough to give you your own life, it's time to say bye.

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Probably normal for insecure guys, unfortunately :(. But, it's not normal for regular guys, so be careful; he could become dangerous and this could go south quickly if he's already that jealous and hovering. If I were you, I'd maybe get out of that relationship...nobody wants to have to deal with that in the long run.

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I would say you are in an unhealthy relationship and if it bothers you try to grow apart from him. If it's not a huge problem then try to talk to him about how he means so much more to you than the other guys and he has nothing to worry about. I hope this helps. I have an uncle with a girlfriend that gets jealous when my mom and I are around him. If it gets that far though, run.

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not normal he's got issues

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It is not only not normal, it is not healthy. I would make a permanently off relationship.

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You should know the answer to this question dear. Only you can decide if you want to be treated this way. I don't think it is a good relationship..Three years is a long time to date, and if he has not changed now, he never will. jealously is not good, and keeping you from having your own space is just as unhealthy. Think about raising a family and bringing children into an unstable marriage.Take a break from this guy..Date another,That is why you date, to find someone you are happy to be with, not fearful.

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It's very normal for a guy to be jealous when his girlfriend is talking to other guys! He probably loves you very much and does not want other guys checking you out and flirting with you! He wants to keep you protected like a lion protects his food from other predators! I know you are annoyed, BUT, you should try to understand his point of view as well! Good luck.....

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I agree with all - been there - cut him loose. Find a normal guy, that allows you to have a life besides with him.

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its kinda okay for him to be jealous because that means he cares about you, but if you guys are off and on thats not so good. He should give you your space so tell him that gently

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Sounds like a potential domestic violence situation to me! Kick this one to the Arroyo, you can do better!

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It's hard to say. There are 2 sides to every situation.
SIDE 1). From what little you've said, and the way you phrased it, then no it's not reasonable and can be seen as being controlling. In which case, you must have experienced this over and over with him if you've been dating this guy off/on for 3 years.
-- And, in which case, you need to decide how much and how long you wish to put up with it. Hopefully, not long, for your sake.
SIDE 2). Exactly what is happening when you "speak to other guys"? Are you flirting with them? Are you being overly touchy-feely with them? Are you trying to incite the other guy's interest in you by acting sexy?
It doesn't matter if you have no intention of following through -- ANY sensible partner would object to such a show of disrespect for them and the relationship. Jealous? Sure, and with good reason. Want you to cut it out? Sure, and also with good reason. Controlling? No.
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So, since none of us here really know what went down, and you do, then you need to take a hard look at it yourself and make your own decision.
After "3 years off and on" with this guy, you asked a carefully worded question on Ask -- one guaranteed to get a specific answer. If that answer is what you want to hear, tell it to the mirror.
I feel kinda set up, so I'm not giving it.

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Highly abnormal. Once you get out of this terrible situation you will be shocked at how easy and happy life can be. Just going to the mall becomes a joyous occasion. Staying will make it worse, when you do break it off prepare for Drama, restraining orders, stalking,suicide attempts, yup,standard MO. Be careful.

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good info..hello gal
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Hey Toni!! Good to see you!!
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Sounds like his a little to controlling time to start making choices

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I knew One like your boyfriend . He was born that way , what he has done to you does not mean he love you .

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If you got away from that boy you probably would have a better life of your own..he is probably to busy controlling your life it isn't funny when a boy is jealous you end up with no friends/ family start getting away from you and your life is just so boring because of that boy that is bad that he never does give you space

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