The person who is available in the house should take care of the chores. However, this does not mean the other person contributes nothing and this means you will have to help with some chores. If one person does all, he might think he is being misused because everyone should create time to help in the house.
ya know what? try having 3 kids in grade school, work 40+ hours a week, go to school 5 nights a week (full time schedule), no husband, and a house to take care of. i know 3 people who are doing that. - i was working 60-70 hours a week, doing the cooking and cleaning-no kids at home anymore- and going to class 2 nights a week for 4 hours each night. and i am old lol - i guess it is what is important to you.
Wow, when people really care for one an other, they want to create a happy environment. ?You may want to do some Couples Counseling. ?consider making a list of the chores and determine what needs to be done and who will do it. Post on the frig. ?if neither wants to do it, hire a housekeeper. ?do you care for each other or don't you?
He works all day, you take care of a 2 yr old and go to school in the evening, obviously you have more time at home but you two should both be sharing the duties, if you can't get something done he should be able to finish what you couldn't do and vice versa, that doesn't mean one of you screws off and intentionally lets it for the other. It sounds like you two are doing everything BUT working together. Frankly arguing over housework is petty and trivial, and it s that type of behavior that leads to bigger issues.