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For those who have celebrated a silver wedding anniversary.

How many of you still enjoy each others company? Are caresses still acknowledged and appreciated, or does each one go through life, living together but separate?

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I've celebrated two silver wedding anniversaries, both with the same woman. Next Wednesday will be our 54th anniversary.

The love is still there and shows up in lots of little things every day. Yes there are still caresses and we still enjoy each others company, every bit as much as we did in the early days.

Sure, the excitement of young romance changes over the years. Deepens. But it doesn't need to lessen.

My barber gave me the secret of a happy marriage. He said, "You get the big decisions and she gets the small ones. So she decides what you're going to eat, what sort of car you drive, where you live, and how much you pay for your house. YOU decide when Eisenhower drops his bomb."

But seriously, it's a partnership, and it can be great. It's up to the couple concerned, really.

Browning put it like this:
"Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be,
The last of life for which the first was made."

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I thought about you when I first saw this...
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Hi Sarte. It sounds like a long time but it seems to have gone so quickly.
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Life is short isn't it...
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Hey - welcome to the club! Amy and I hit 54 years together next weekend. I don't know where the years have gone to, we have been so busy living life together. We haven't yet been to see all our wedding photos that friends took - and many of them died years ago. The only cloud on our horizon is that one of us has to die first - and neither of us could cope alone.... Life IS short - and the Christmases are getting closer together every year....
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<3 I adore that Browning quote. <3

As we will be celebrating our silver this year I can vouch for everything you said OzMan. That's how it is with Hubster and I as well!

The Almighty FSM has certainly bestowed his noodily goodness upon us <3
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@DrBrian: We're definitely talking the same language. Daizy (not really her name) and I have discussed that cloud you mentioned. It's something all couples have to face and, since it's part of life, all you can do is be prepared. Both of us have had scares at times but things are going well now.

But even though the bodies age (and, yes, the Christmases speed up) the mind doesn't have to and sometimes when I look at her I can still see all the people she has been. A few years ago I wrote a (very short) sketch about making that transition. It's not the way I think things are going to be, it's just a fantasy. A wish, I suppose. http://goo.gl/JqZrn

But thanks for sharing.
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@Yosey: It's from Rabbi ben Ezra. I hoped you'd stop by this question. I knew you were very close to 25 years.

When we had our 25th I took a week's holiday and did something different every day. I thought it was worth celebrating.
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Congratulations Dod and Daizy....DrBrian Congratulations to you and your "Valentine" also.....Not many stamarried any more. My guy have been together as seniors, getting married 6 years aftert that and hit 45 last year..I would marry him all over again..Not for everyone I guess but we believe our faith in God has made this the perfect relationship.. And I don't hide that "excuse"

Many more to you both:)
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ynp..just realize you also have a milestone..Congrats..Keep it going lol..Wish we were only in our 25th...Love being with the grandchildren..They grow so quickly..
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Thank you toni! I would do my guy all over again too........wait...that sounds dirty....but you get it..
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Thanks, Toni. Appreciated. Glad you have a good one, too.

You name faith in God and I'm not so far away from that. When we made a promise we meant it. We made it in a church but it would have been just as binding if we'd made it to each other and, instead of a ceremony, just jumped over a sword, as they used to do.

These days *sob* I don't think i could jump high enough to do that.
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@ ynp hahahahaha yes I get it lol....
@dod...Whatever works..as long as you are true to yourself, your mate, and in my case.My God:) How quickly times passes:( Have a good weekend..
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Grandchildren! WONDERUL - when you have had enough, you can give them back! It's called "Mother Nature's Revenge" when you see your kids being driven to distraction in the same way they worried us. I can't help it, but it does make me smile. But great-grandchildren don't seem to be on the Agenda - they want to wait until they are rich before having babies.
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hahahahaha......my grandchildren just moved away in the summer..Dad's company moved to NC. We are in Ma. We miss our only 2 little granddaughters soooooooo much and our sweet daughter and our awesome son-in-law.
Yes we can fly out, but we use to bring them donuts and coffe a few times a week [since we lived close to one another..] and we got to see all the sports they did .little kids are so funny .and those dance recitals...ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ok... lol not going there..
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This is a really good question, I think the answer changes with each individual couple, couples that adore and cherish one another can manage to keep that fire burning all throughout their lives and they can have passion well into their 70s or their 80's, there's no time limit on it, as for me I would like to follow love one last time and be that couple that you periodically see walking down the street wearing nylon jackets and matching flannel shirts, holding hands smiling and just being together and enjoying that moment, to be in love is bliss there's no emotion more powerful or satisfying or rewarding than to have somebody that you truly care about, but not everybody gets it, some couples stay married but drift apart and have separate lives, and they lose that communication, that is sad in my opinion, I would never want that to happen to me...

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Hubster and I will be celebrating this year. I can vouch for everything that Dodgy said. Your life is truly what you make it.

The Browning quote definitely says it best.....
Grow old with me, the best is yet to be....

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"Grow old with me - the best is happening every day and it just keeps getting better!"
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R'amen, Yosey.
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Yes - sharing expressions of affection is a daily routine. After 54 years we still hold hands and make all our decisions together. I know that people mature towards each other or drift away in opposite directions, so it is important to renew your committment at each anniversary. I even arranged for my wife to be an observer when I was training for Psychotherapy because I didn't want us to develop in different directions. Without any qualifications at all she is a better Counselor than any University graduate - some people are just born that way. I appreciate all she does for me and I tell her that every day!

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You've obviously got a good relationship, Dr.B. 1960 must have been a good year for weddings. :)

And, checking your profile page, I see we have something else in common. We both live on the flip side of the planet. I'm on the Blue Mountains, just west of Sydney.
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Actually, we live just across the ditch. Looking forward to our Diamond anniversary and wondering what 70 years is called. Soneone said Uranium Wedding, which sounds a bit dangerous!
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Piggy Muldoon was once asked to comment on the migration of Kiwis to Australia and said, "I think it's done a great deal to raise the IQ level on both sides of the Tasman."

I kinda liked that, but would have preferred to credit it to a more personable character.
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I can't speak for all, but I would marry my guy all over again if I had to pick from a bunch of men..When you have the best,it is hard to take second best..Been much longer than 25 for us.Make every day special.We still take mystery rides, go to concerts , enjoy our hobbies, dining out, respecting our own space and of course being with family and having faith in God...

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Congratulations !..)
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Thank you..:)
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Congrats, Toni. All those ideas help keep the romance alive -- and that's important.
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Of COURSE you would do it all the same way again if you had a second chance. I told my grandson if he ever met a girl just like his grandma, to grab her with both hands and never let go!
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hahahaha smart DR

Oh for sure Dod.....if you have your health...no reason not to make each day exciting..as they say...each day is a gift..and gifts need to be opened:)
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